Trapped

[ZoeD18]

I want to leave my narcissistic husband.
But I know he won't make it easy.
We've just settled on a our home- social housing - with our 3 children 4, 12 and 14.
I've tried for years to leave and then get sucked in with promises and gaslighting after 15 years.
How do I leave? How do I still keep mine and my children's home?
I still don't believe that this isn't all about me - my needs, my fault.
But I want a better life and I don't know what to do.

Book an appt with your closest citizens advice for confidential advice. Book a free 30mins appt with a family solicitor who will give you the proper advice for your specific situation re house and finances, don't believe randoms online who all have different situations. Conta t women's aid for help moving forwards with being 15 years in an abusive relationship. Most of all though, when you make the jump, don't back down, you deserve more and so do your children. You've got this mama

Thank you!!

Do you work ? Do you have your own bank account ?

@Sarah061991 has covered it well I think. Also start keeping any evidence you can of his abuse (text messages etc). Start planning ahead to see what benefits you could get, squirrel away some spare money if possible.

also contacting Shelter helpline might be helpful on advice about getting him off the tenancy/keeping the home.

Thank you.
I do work but he has access to my account.
Really appreciate the advice 🙏