Ex Boyfriend - what to do

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Boyfriend of 21 months ended things by text 2 days after we had a nice evening together. This was almost 8 weeks ago.
Have not seen him since. Last messages were more than 2 weeks ago, when he said he still needed distance from me.
He has left expensive work tools at my house - last messages were that he would still complete the work he was supposed to do (that’s his business).
He also has property of mine, including a vintage Vespa.
Do I continue with the NC and wait for him to contact me as he said he would give me a rough quote for the work or do I ask what is going on? I can’t just take his things to him - too big.
I’m still pretty devastated about it all as it blindsided me and his cowardly way of ending it by text has really upset me. I thought at 45 he would be a bit more mature than that.

It makes it awkward if he is still supposed to be doing work at your house. I would text him and ask him when it's convenient for you to collect the Vespa from his house and can he give you a date when he can finish off the work at your place (that is if you still want him to do it). If not just ask him to collect the tools and get someone else to finish the work.

Pretty much exactly what I was going to say.

Get the Vespa and get someone else to do the work . My ex did this. Half way through doing a load of work and then ghosted me after 3 years. Turns out he was seeing someone for Six months and went to her.

I think by 8 weeks you need to get things sorted, the Vespa collected and either he completes work he’s started or collects his things and you can both move on with your lives.

I’d arrange for someone to go and collect the Vespa. Maybe send a text saying “I need the Vespa back please. My mate can come collect at 8 tonight“.

Personally I’d forget about him doing work in your home, unless you’ve paid him for some work. I wild get someone else in. He’s not even responding to text so the likelyhood of him coming and being in your home is unlikely. Do you think you are maybe hoping he will do the work as a way for you to see him?

Text him saying he needs to collect his tools asap and you will find someone else to do the work and you are free on XYZ to get your Vespa.

“I’d arrange for someone to go and collect the Vespa. Maybe send a text saying “I need the Vespa back please. My mate can come collect at 8 tonight“.

Personally I’d forget about him doing work in your home, unless you’ve paid him for some work. I wild get someone else in. He’s not even responding to text so the likelyhood of him coming and being in your home is unlikely. Do you think you are maybe hoping he will do the work as a way for you to see him?”

This.

Agree with others, arrange for someone to collect your property, tell him you’ve found someone else to do your work and if he wants his tools back, he has until X date to collect.

m And he sounds horrible to have ended things by text.

2 weeks ago he said he would do the work. I have his digger in my garden. I have already paid him for some of it.
i have another company here right now who will give me a quote but it’s going to be much more than I had originally budgeted for and they can’t do exactly what we had planned together.
i just feel he was a total coward ending it by text and completely out of the blue.

Send him a text.

Tell him you need your vespa back. And that he needs to tell you if he intends to complete the work he's been paid for - if not then you need a refund of the money you have paid him, and he needs to collect his tools. Both by the end of this week.

I would not have him complete the work. That feels like a disaster waiting to happen.

give him a date to get his equipment by and arrange a time to get the vespa. And be done.