Deleted internet history

[privatemum]

My boyfriend has a Samsung galaxy s21 phone he has been deleting history and maybe searching in private mode. How do I see the sites he's deleted from maybe cookies cause there is no internet history of any sites he's visited apart from things on Google like normal searches. He's deleted things in the past I'm quite sure he's still doing it

Op. This will CONSUME you if you can't find a way to get past the cheating. It won't be a happy and healthy relationship.

Stop looking through this phone. Either you trust him or you don't. If you don't you need to decide what you're going to do about it as you'll drive you both mad with the constant snooping and accusations.

I don't think you can. Mine is set to auto delete - not because I'm cheating but a clear history makes my browser work quicker. If your concerned and have access to his phone then you could always but one if those spy/clone apps on it which give you access to messages and searches

How long were you together before you checked his phone??

This is so unhealthy why are you staying?!!

The solution to broken trust isn't to be able to look through your partner's phone and search history. Doing so won't fix anything.

It really shouldn't be this difficult, especially so early on in the relationship. It's also not healthy to be so emotionally attached after such a short period of time that leaving him is so difficult. For you to feel that you love him so much after only a few months, makes me wonder if lovebombing has taken place.

This isn't a healthy relationship. I think you'd be better off ending things and spending some time single.

What are you hoping to achieve by reading whatever you discover from these deleted cookies?

What’s your end goal with that? What will you do with that information if it turns out to be what you suspect?

If you think he might be on dating sites and you're convinced enough to be regularly checking his phone for evidence this relationship is dead anyway.

Just cut your losses and move on. It shouldn't be this much hard work after only a few months, he's already cheated once that you know of, this really isn't worth it.

Hi OP, this all sounds very upsetting. I suspect you found out about the cheating but tried to forgive because you didn't want to break up with him but now it's all still tormenting you. He might (probably is) up to his old tricks again now but you don't actually need proof. The damage is done. Leave, it's not making you happy being with him.

To be honest it was a very kind member of staff in my local phone shop qwho set it up for me. My phone is ancient though so may not still be possible.

Good grief just dump him. If he’s already cheated a few months in and you don’t trust him to the extent that you’re snooping on his phone this “relationship” is not worth the aggro. There are plenty of people out there who won’t cheat or give you cause not to trust them. Why don’t you think you deserve better?

If it's only been a few months and you are questioning his phone history, then this isn't the right relationship for you.

I only use internet in private mode. I like my privacy, look up all kinds of weird (but not dodgy!) stuff, nobody's business but mine

If I was cheating, it's my emails/SM/ WhatsApp that would be my problem. Not my internet history :)

😂 and that's exactly why I am on private mode. The weird crap I google. Glad I am not the only one!

If I use private mode or clean Internet history, it is simply because I have searched question that is too stupid or specific. Or because I don't want publicity related to it. I have never cheated

I don't think there is anyway you can retrieve it. My DH has set his phone to automatically delete history and uses private browsing. This is because sometimes he looks at porn. You could ask him not to delete history and not to go to private browsing and show you what he has been looking but I am not sure you necessarily want to look at the porn he has been looking at.

There's no way to check.
But if you feel the need to check up on him, and he has already cheated, you should leave.

He's cheated in the first few months? He showed his hand walk away rather than put yourself through this shit ffs.

How do you build trust with someone who is untrustworthy? You don’t. Given what you know about this man, what makes you think you can?

The question you should be asking and only you know the answer to, is why are you so desperate to be with someone who doesn’t respect you?

Go down the rabbit hole of trying to catch him out if you must but do so knowing that you will ruin your mh in the pursuit. The choice is yours.

You do know that the police can recover deleted history right?😁

People only delete things that they don't want other people seeing. I'm sorry but trust is something that both parties have to work really hard at rebuilding after cheating has occurred. He cheated in the past , he's deleting his history which is not in any way an attempt at rebuilding trust. He has shown you who he is, he's a cheat, accept that for what it is.
Staying with someone who has cheated is incredibly difficult, that constant need to check his phone, his whereabouts, his account of his actions etc ,and the sick feeling you get when you know he's probably still at it, is soul destroying and will impact your long term MH in a very negative way

I assume they can! I am working on the basis that my DH is looking at legal stuff!

@privatemum so you went sneaking once and found evidence of cheating. You are sneaking again and he’s deleting his browser history. This man is adding to your depression and lowering your self worth. This is not a way to live. Please please walk away. Work on your self and depression. Be the best you can… and only then start looking at a relationship.

They can and they can't. Nothing is ever "deleted" as in wiped from the HDD or memory as such. When you delete something the registry entry that tells the phone or computer is deleted and the space is flagged as available. The data itself stays there until it is overwritten. So, if it has not been overwritten then it can be retrieved but your ISP keeps a log of what sites you've visited and that cannot be deleted.

You need to split up. Move on.

“People only delete things that they don't want other people seeing. ”

Not true. Sorry. There’s a long running decluttering topic on one of the other boards part of the decluttering plan includes digital decluttering.

I delete stuff weekly on my phone, emails, messages, browsing history. I’ll let you decide if I’m up to no good or not

Why do people torture themselves like this?

This so called relationship is going nowhere but splitsville, save yourself the wasted time and agony and get out now.