I don’t even know what I’m looking for here.. Support I guess or advice but my husband does the bare minimum when it comes to the kids, apparently it’s a mother’s job 99% of the time, he also does the bare minimum with actually engaging and interacting with us as a family more so when we’ve had a disagreement or argument he withdraws from all parenting responsibilities which I’ve had enough of after several years of the same cycle of behaviour from him and you could say I’m at the point now where I am resentful of him and have checked out.
He has all these expectations of what the kids should be doing but never actively participates or follows through so this evening he wanted our daughter to do maths work, not school work but his own version of doing maths because he wants her to be ahead of other kids. He told her he will give her the sums to do at 5:30pm and as always 5:30pm came and he was doing his own thing, either playing PS5 or upstairs locked up in the room. I told my daughter that she can just read today as daddy still hasn’t given her the work he said he would and then she can go and play Roblox which she usually gets an hour to play at 7pm. He finally comes marching down to her room at 7pm saying she has to do maths now. I told him no you didn’t follow through with the time you said and therefore it’s now 7 and she’s having her 1 hour play time. He went mental saying I’m denying him from being a parent and then shouted if you want to break up then just do so but you won’t stop me from parenting. He then storms off upstairs and my daughter burst into tears obviously very upset asking if we’re breaking up and why and that she’s sad and just wants us to be happy. He’s now hiding in the room while I’m trying not to breakdown and comfort our child that he has upset once again but apparently I’m the bad parent. I’m always left with the remnants of his destruction and I have to hold it together and not lose it or cry in front of the kids. I’m just devastated this is my life.