Both in early 40's and dating exclusively for 9 weeks, first few weeks lots of dates then settled into meeting in evenings when kids are in bed or odd lunch time when there at school.
He is a full time single parent with no breaks and also works, just started (2 weeks ago) a new job full time (on probation) and also does a full time contractor role so it's pretty hectic
I began to get worried it was just becoming a casual sex thing as we haven't managed to get out on a date for 4 weeks (though seen him twice a week when kids are asleep) snd on Saturday I basically texted him saying your not interested are you, it's just casual easy sex for you.... he responded straight away saying he is interested but at the moment he just doesn't physically have the time to go out and he is stressed and exhausted and wants to see me but can only offer minimal time at moment due to everything going on
Now I understand he's really busy and I don't mind carrying on whilst things get better (contract will be ending in month) but I'm still struggling with anxiety that this is just going to be for sex and never change
We have regular daily contact, he messages every morning, checks in during day and days goodnight etc
Surely me calling him out on Saturday gave him the perfect opening to end it if he wanted? We have seen each other twice since Saturday