Should I do the housework

[TheOP2]

So... Our cleaner went on maternity so we decided to split the chores ... He said he will do the two bathrooms and keep the garden tidy. I said I will mop, hoover and keep the kitchen tidy ( I also cook, food shop , all laundry and take care of pets health and needs). He works full time and I work part time (30 hrs over three days). I can't remember the last time he did the bathrooms!!!!!! My question is .. should I do it as I'm part time so have two days a week off or make him do it so I'm not doing almost everything!!!!! The last time I asked him to pull his weight he didn't speak to me for two days ....

What are you doing in your two days off? Is it free time or are you looking after children?

It's really up to you as no households are the same 😉and what works from one couple might not for another. Some people might have caring responsibilities, need to prioritise days off to rest if have ongoing conditions etc. etc. or just need the time/ not want to!! Personally I probably would do it because seeing it undone would annoy me and I'd feel guilty because of the part time/full time aspect. But only you know what things you need to do/prioritise. Everyone and their Uncle on this forum is going to have an opinion and interrogate you about your days off etc. Why ask on here and do that to yourself? Just do what works best for you both.

If my partner had two days off a week while I worked full time, and he expected me to clean two bathrooms and do all the gardening every weekend I wouldn't be impressed. But that's why I live on my own, so the bathrooms and rest of the housework get done when I can be bothered (rarely).

You work 10 hours per week less than full time. If you don't have other household responsibilities (childcare) during this time, you should use it to get as much of the household chores done as is reasonably possible. Anything you don't have time for should be split equally between you.

I guess an exception might be if you could afford for both of you to work 30 hours a week and live the lifestyle you want, but he's actually choosing to work full time because he enjoys it. In that case I'd consider that's his choice and the extra hours are effectively a hobby. I think more sharing of chores might be fair in this situation.

Sounds like you more than cover the extra hours he works (unless he's on a 50hr week) 2 bathrooms and a garden aren't a lot to do compared to everything else. Choosing to give you the silent treatment is a completely shitty thing to do. He's an adult and should be able to have a reasonable conversation about this without sulking.

Get another temporary cleaner while your one is on maternity? That way you won't be arguing over chores and he won't be giving you the silent treatment for asking him to do more

30 hours isn’t very part time. But in general an able bodied adult with no children or other medical or caring commitments who works part time would naturally do more housework I would think. Why are you parttime?
the silent treatment is pathetic and everybody in a relationship wiht a man who pulls the silent treatment when asked to discuss the split of housework should pack their things and mysteriously disappear one day with no warning and no forwarding address. Silent treatment that you man child.

The last time I asked him to pull his weight he didn't speak to me for two days

You don't have to put up with this.

Sounds like to do more than him and I bet there is a bunch of stuff on the list you didn’t include. He agreed to it and you shouldn’t have to nag a fully grown adult into doing a small amount of house work.

Just because you work 7hrs less a week doesn’t mean all the housework falls on you. I work full time, and live alone so do 100% of the housework obviously. I don’t see in what world you are exempt from all chores just because you’re part time

Full time that should say at the end