I’m single, have been for a while but I do dabble with OLD.
went on a date with a guy about 6 weeks ago. Had a lovely time, he’s a nice guy. Took him back to mine and we slept together. Both of us were drunk, I wanted to and didn’t feel like I had to.
A week later, I just started to get the ick. I didn’t think I really found him attractive. He was just too much, lots of texting, sent me a gift. I had to tell him I just wanted to be friends, it was too much too soon.
so we kept talking and kind of fell back into naughty texts. I thought I was perhaps too hasty. Then he came round last weekend and we ended up sleeping together. Kept speaking but again, I feel like it’s too much. He referred to me as his Girlfriend. The ick is back.
Now I feel bad that I’ll have to have another “let’s be friends” chat. And I feel like I’ve led him on. I thought I wanted a relationship, but maybe I don’t, or maybe he isn’t the right guy. And I don’t think I’m actually attracted to him. We share a hobby, and I enjoy doing it with him, but I think that’s it really! I also stupidly agreed to go and visit him soon as he’s working away and the thought fills me with dread! Any advice on how to gently let him down? I realise I shouldn’t have hooked up with him again, but my friends were all “oh he’s a nice guy, give him a chance” and I just got swept up in it all!