Need a hand hold and a vent

[Helenbrook]

Hi,

just need to shout from the roof tops but I miss my ex and it’s been 5 months now I feel cursed I saw him on a dating website recently and I had logged on myself but knew after 5 mins i wasn’t ready for anything like that , then today I was walking my dog and I couldn’t believe I saw him with his young child at a playground he’s separated and I felt sick by all this as I didn’t expect to see him and I’m really struggling as I miscarried his baby 5 months ago and I’m really suffering physically and emotionally I’ve tried all avenues for help but I’m just not shifting this feeling yet , he ended things just before I knew I was pregnant as he felt his head wasn’t right for dating and fact that he has a kid and is a single dad it broke me and I just want a hand hold :) sorry

A big hug to you.

Big feelings like this take time, so give yourself that time. I’m sorry you went through this but in every heart break there are lessons to be learnt. These things happen and it just wasn’t right for the two of you, that is no one’s fault and can be quite hard to accept. Of course it’s knocked you seeing him, that’s normal I would say. With more time you will feel better eventually, one day at a time.

@Whattodowithit88 thank you for your kindness and advice and it’s true there are lessons to be learnt unfortunately. It’s a scary feeling months later but I hope time heals this pain xx

Hand hold here

It's one of those feelings that knocks you for six and you can't do anything about
You are still hurting, frustrated and confused

Do something lovely for yourself tomorrow

@jackstini thanks yep hurt frustrated and confused you are right being kind to yourself helps a little

Five months is no time to get over someone especially if you’ve lost a baby too. It wasn’t meant to be - the combination of you two wasn’t quite right so be kind to yourself and no rush to find a new partner! Oh and BLOCK him!!! X

@Tex81 thanks for your kind words yep I did everything right but with him being a deep thinker it all ended.

@SunflowerTed thank you ♥️

It's going to take some time, 5 months is a really short time plus having a miscarriage. Be really kind to yourself and focus on you. Give yourself some mini treats, even little things like a new book or new bath stuff. Arrange a coffee with a friend. Nice walks etc. It will get easier, promise

@coolcahuna thanks - thank god for my adorable dog he’s free therapy