I need advice. For reference I’ve a partner of 8 years, 3 kids. His friend calls round every night. Today (during the day) his friend called and he was outside with him for roughly an hour and a half, having a smoke and chatting. Bedtime routine came. (We have 3 kids) he proceeded to run the kids a bath then another one of his friends called to the door in the middle of it and he stopped running it and he disappeared without even saying to me he was away & walked down to his friends house and sat for an hour & drank beer with him. I was running round trying to sort everyone’s supper, getting their pyjamas on, bottles fed etc, I was very stressed as 2/3 of them where playing up on me and being naughty. I even forgot about the bath as it was meant to be his job tonight so it completely left my mind. I text his friend as OH has no phone atm and asked if he was with him and could he tell him I’m looking him. He replied yes and said my OH said he was leaving now. 20 more minutes pass and he still didn’t arrive (me and his friend live about 40 seconds away from each other) and then his other friend that was here earlier on today then knocked on my door. I told him where was and asked his friend would he ask him to come up home. Another 10 minutes later and he finally arrives home. (Every ones fed & in bed at this point) I said to him he could of atleast let me know he was away somewhere, that I didn’t appreciate him just leaving me in the middle of everything as it was quite stressful and that I feel like the piss is sort of being took out of me. He asked me was I serious. I’m on benefits, the past while I can’t seem to hold on to money as I’ve been buying him beer almost every evening the past month and ive even been paying for some of his weed. (He says he’ll pay me back but I don’t hold my breath, also I’m not a drinker or a weed smoker) he’s got into a routine where I’m buying him that, then he’s sitting outside in the evenings drinking & smoking with his friend - they always call just before kids bedtime routine & then I don’t see him untill around 10pm every night. I’ve already brought this up to Him about waiting untill after but no change made. So anyway, he asks me am I serious and I said yes I am, I just seem to be a bank at the minute who pays for weed & beer for you to sit outside with your mates all night. He started screaming at me, punched the kitchen cupboard & kicked the bin, went outside, got his weed and threw it at me and all over the table I was sitting at, told me to “shove it up my arse” then pushed the table I was sitting at and pushed it clean into my chest as hard he could and called me a tramp and told me to go fuck myself then walked outside again. To go sit outside with his mate again. I’m so upset.