So my and my fiance got engaged 2 years ago, shortly after our first was born (we've been together 8 years now). We then decided to have our 2nd before getting married as we didn't want too long of an age gap, and covid was still lurking so felt risky setting a date. Now baby now has arrived, our wedding should be out next move on our to do list. However, we definitely want to get married, but I'm now unsure if I actually want a big wedding. If we plan a traditional wedding it'll inevitably be big (I'm guessing 150 guests) as we have a lot of friends and my fiance feels "if were already gonna spend X amount of money and not have everyone we want there then I'd rather we spend that bit more and have everyone there". My conundrum is, I don't know if I can be arsed with planning a wedding as cmon we all know it'll be left to the woman. I feel like 50% of me wants that lovely wedding day, the beautiful dress, flowers, speeches, dancing etc. But then half of me is like I just want to get married and do something small to become his wife, solidify our family, and have the same surname as our kids. I do know I want something more than getting married at a registry office, but I don't know what that is? Abroad? My anticipation atm is that it sounds like such a task to arrange a wedding, and at a huge financial cost, I'm like, do I want it that much? Any suggestions are welcome because I feel like I'm searching for something between registry office and this big wedding but don't know what that is...