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Dating someone again years after break up?

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haveyouever1 · 24/06/2023 23:03

Has anyone ever dated anyone years after breaking up, and does it tend to end badly if so?

This isn't someone I dated as an adult, we were teenagers and dated for two years. Break up was devastating to me as a teen (first relationship) but we stayed in contact on and off over about 15 years. Particularly if one of us has a really bad time we reach out and connect because we get each other in a way others don't, the couple of years we spent together were very significant for us both. We supported each other through some really difficult stuff.

Anyway, we are both currently single at the same time. I think I was probably always the one that got away for him. I feel as though situations like this might be likely to end badly? But I'm not sure if the fact we were so young mitigates it a bit, in that it's not like one of us had an awful personality trait or was abusive and the other managed to escape. We both had difficult lives and it was the wrong time then. I guess I'm not sure if it's mad to think that the same person years later could be worth a shot?

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BillyNoM8s · 24/06/2023 23:07

Yes but with less time between than you. Ultimately he was a knob again.

He's not aged well. I'm glad I got away Grin

HelloSunshine12 · 24/06/2023 23:09

BillyNoM8s · 24/06/2023 23:07

Yes but with less time between than you. Ultimately he was a knob again.

He's not aged well. I'm glad I got away Grin

Such a shame! Hope you didn't waste too much time on him. How old were you when you first dated, and the second time..?

Shapemyeyebrows · 24/06/2023 23:12

@haveyouever1 yes I did. We dated for around 2 months but I found that after the initial feeling of “wow I feel 18 again” when with them, I soon realised it didn’t feel right romantically. I wasn’t the same person as when we first dated and whilst it was nice to reminisce I realised we both weren’t compatible as adults. Like you, we dated about 2 years in our late teens and have sporadically kept in contact over the years, and whilst I think there will always be a soft spot for each other sometimes what’s in the past is best left in the past. However, I’m sure there are also stories about this situation working out and I don’t regret trying as now I don’t have that “what if”

Hawkins0001 · 24/06/2023 23:19

@haveyouever1
If it was me and it was my ex that reached out and proposed reconnecting then I'd say yes, better to try and it fails, rather than the what could of been,

With me my ex was a Lovley person just that we had different perspectives at the time.

Changedname23 · 25/06/2023 15:30

Life's too short. Go for it and see what happens

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