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Can this work?

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Skywalker2018 · 24/06/2023 21:32

I have very up and down moods. I can feel perfectly fine and then very very low. I think this is due to my very traumatic childhood and living with a parent who also had extreme highs and lows. I am trying to move past it, have given up alcohol, had therapy, do exercise, etc. My problem is that my partner barely acknowledges there's a problem. He tends to underplay things or ignore big issues which really doesn't help.

I have found myself feeling really resentful over his lack of support but wonder if it's my issue that I need to take care of or if I should expect more from him. I recently felt suicidal and he just said I was being extreme and didn't mention it again. I love him but I wonder if we have a future together. I almost feel like I don't have a chance of healing past traumas when he is so reluctant to acknowledge them.

I don't know if I'm expecting too much though and shouldn't blame him for being a bit dismissive of it.

We have children and been together almost 20 years.

OP posts:
Seaoftroubles · 25/06/2023 10:39

So sorry you felt so low OP, would strongly advise you to get counselling to help deal with your past trauma. You have been with your partner a long time so l imagine he has been supportive in the past but maybe he just didn't feel able to deal with talk of suicide? This is a big issue and you need professional help to help you navigate recovery from your traumatic childhood wounds. For now if have suicidal thoughts please speak to your G.P, or else contact the Samaritans.

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