New relationship

[Themet]

I finally met someone who seemed my dream guy. First man in 15 years of dating.
This is why this is so painful. He said he couldn’t believe meeting me - that I have been a special gift to him.

After driving forward the relationship and wanting to move in and planning the future, he’s backed off and said he wants space to figure out his feelings and what he wants. It’s only been 6 months. He went through a difficult divorce two years ago.

He insists there’s no one else.

He just wants me to give him space and time over next few weeks when he goes through a tough time at work.

I have no reason to doubt what he’s saying. But it hurts. And I want to protect myself.

Is this doomed?

All that after 6months?!

are children involved?

Don't take any of this sort of crap just six months into a relationship.

Take control. Bin him off.

This!! Been there done that. Really not worth the aggro or heartache.

It’s not a good sign sorry. I wouldn’t be waiting for two weeks.

6 months bloody hell. I never even think about moving in together unless I've known someone for at least 2 years. No wonder he has cold feet, it's only been two years since his horrible divorce (what divorces aren't horrible).
Back off and give him time and space. If someone tried to forward a relationship like that with me, I'd get properly cold feet and dump them.

It all came from him - he wanted to move in.
Now he’s freaked out and wants to think.

No kids involved

I’m guessing there are children involved

On either side?

Two years ago he divorced op

he met you 6months ago

he’s still in eye of storm.

After six months unless you were spending hours together each day and have experienced several holidays or nights away and met each others families and work colleagues and each others friends a fair few times you don't really know each other.

It's all lovely for the first six months to a year for most.

He may well be someone who enjoys the first six months and then cools off.

If you haven't experienced any major problems and it's just a case of him getting cold feet and murmuring about not having a future together then I would shake his hand and part ways.

Don't waste any more time with someone who only has lukewarm feelings for you.

I had a bit of a wobble about the idea of moving in together. I know it worried DP at the time, whereas I was just afraid of the unknown. I was fully intending to settle down with DP, wasn't feeling lukewarm towards them at all, and we did make firm plans to go ahead soon afterwards. It's not always bad news. Six months is very soon to consider making a big life change, esp if you're pretty settled already. I was still young and in the transient post-graduation stage and I was still nervous about upending everything.