I've was widowed 2 years ago this month. DH had been seriously ill for a very long time, so I lost my husband much earlier than that iyswim.
During DH's illness a male friend was very good to us both. He was "my" friend but DH knew him fairly well too.
At the time friend was in a rocky relationship and when they split, at about the time of DH's death, he announced he planned to stay single for a while (unusual for him) and he has.
During these two years, we've spent quite a bit of time together, mostly by virtue of us both being single and having time on our hands.
We always have a nice time, generally it's all very proper, but we've had the odd moment after a drink.
It feels a bit weird to me that he's been such a good friend to me without an ulterior motive. I have other male friends but not people I spend much 121 time with.
So, did he really mean it about staying single and I'm part of his new single life or maybe he's staying single until I'm ready....
I have to admit it seems unlikely he's played such a long game, but...
I'm currently still wearing my wedding ring. I was thinking of taking it off at the 2 year mark, which is a couple of days before a planned day out with friend. Would he even notice?