I dont enjoy weekends with my partner after becoming a mum

[Firsttimemumma23]

I feel like I'm really harsh thinking like this, after all my partner is a lovely person and is providing for us but i can't help dread weekends. Myself and my 12 week old baby have our own routine going on during the week but when the weekend comes round it's so stressful! I know I should look forward to family time but I cannot stand to be around my partner for long since becoming a mum. He's not particularly hands on and I seem to do all the house chores and looking after our baby as he is EBF. I am happy to do so during the week but it's as if my partner deserves his rest over the weekend more than me because he's been 'working all week' and I haven't, I'm sure he thinks maternity leave is a holiday for me! We seem to argue and bicker all weekend and I'm relieved when Monday comes around. Also we have zero intimacy and haven't done since I was 7 months pregnant, so over 4 months. Neither of us seem bothered but I deffo feel being pregnant and birthing baby has been a massive turn off for my partner. I'm not sure what I'm looking for by posting this but really need a rant! Am I the only one who feels this way!?

YANBU Chores and looking after the baby should be shared at the weekend.
As you only have one baby you could take it in turns to have a lie-in and some relaxation time.
Doesn't your partner want any quality time with his baby ?

Would you be prepared to go out for a few hours and leave him alone with the baby ? You could leave just after feeding or leave a bottle of expressed milk. That way he can get a feel of what's involved.

Me and DH got a cleaner after the birth of our second, money was very tight but it freed up weekends for family time.

Firstly, I think it's normal for couples to bicker a fair bit then they have a baby - you are both tired and busy and life is unrecognisable compared to pre baby - it's a huge culture shock!

But I also think it's a mistake (that lots of women make) to do everything for the baby yourself and not get into the habit of sharing with your partner. I relied heavily on my mum, first time around, and it's easy for dads to become excluded. He needs to bond with and learn to look after the baby. You both need equal amounts of rest and to share domestic life.
Maternity leave is for you to recover and learn how to care for the baby - it isn't a holiday and it does involve lots of work. Sometimes men don't know how hard the work is because their wives do everything and he never gets to learn!

Try not to make him feel unwelcome in his own home and try to be more of a team when it comes to sharing both work and leisure time.