Anyone been speed dating

itwasntmetho · 2023-06-23T14:26:45+00:00

Can I go speed dating alone or is it a go with a friend thing? I've never even been in a venue when speed dating is taking place, I can't really picture it.

yellowsmileyface · 23/06/2023 16:11

I've done it once. It was an interesting experience.

I went by myself, and when I got there I was immediately shown to my own table. I stayed there all night whilst the men changed tables.

It was interesting to meet so many people in such a short space of time, but the standard questions got very boring and repetitive (IE what do you do for work? Do you have any hobbys?). I'd recommend thinking up some more interesting and unique questions so it doesn't get too tiresome.

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itwasntmetho · 23/06/2023 16:58

Ah really?

I don't usually go in with those questions when I'm on dates because I have a boring job and no hobbies so don't want them to ask me.

It's more like "Did you see........this week?" "have you been following.....?" I actually really like dates but the first five minutes are the most shit then it gets fun.
If it was just the table bit I wouldn't think of it but I think there's mixing bits, is that when everyone will go to their friend and I'll be stood on my tod feeling awkward? 😳

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Allgoodusernamesweretaken · 23/06/2023 20:18

I went a few times. It always super pissed me off when people came with friends who were either taken or not interested and just turned up for company (usually women coming with gey male friends or dudes coming with other bros who are just tagging long) as there are usually more women than guys, and most of the guys are not even there to look for a date.

It was fun, but not all companies do it the peoper way, and sometimes if you sit to close and dont have a partner to chat during the round, you just overhear other peoples convos and then they hear you talk to the same guy, a bit awkward. I did go on a few very nice follow up dates! But the all were from one venue that was large enough and well organised.

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itwasntmetho · 23/06/2023 20:47

Allgoodusernamesweretaken · 23/06/2023 20:18

I went a few times. It always super pissed me off when people came with friends who were either taken or not interested and just turned up for company (usually women coming with gey male friends or dudes coming with other bros who are just tagging long) as there are usually more women than guys, and most of the guys are not even there to look for a date.

It was fun, but not all companies do it the peoper way, and sometimes if you sit to close and dont have a partner to chat during the round, you just overhear other peoples convos and then they hear you talk to the same guy, a bit awkward. I did go on a few very nice follow up dates! But the all were from one venue that was large enough and well organised.

Yeah that would really annoy me. If I wanted to waste time with unavailable people I'd stick with the internet dating.
I need to do something I'm so bored!

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Probationnotontarget · 23/06/2023 20:48

Look up Love Speed Dating on FB there’s general videos to show you what’s it’s like

Polis · 23/06/2023 20:58

always super pissed me off when people came with friends who were either taken or not interested

That would be me. I went with a friend because she needed some emotional support. She wouldn’t have gone otherwise.

It was a bit embarrassing in the end because nobody showed an interest in her. I think she came across as a bit desperate, whereas I was very relaxed because I wasn’t actually looking for anybody.

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itwasntmetho · 23/06/2023 21:02

Polis · 23/06/2023 20:58

always super pissed me off when people came with friends who were either taken or not interested

That would be me. I went with a friend because she needed some emotional support. She wouldn’t have gone otherwise.

It was a bit embarrassing in the end because nobody showed an interest in her. I think she came across as a bit desperate, whereas I was very relaxed because I wasn’t actually looking for anybody.

Were you actually unavailable though? Or just not keen?

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itwasntmetho · 23/06/2023 21:03

Probationnotontarget · 23/06/2023 20:48

Look up Love Speed Dating on FB there’s general videos to show you what’s it’s like

Thanks, I'll have a look.

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PilatesPeach · 23/06/2023 21:03

I went once - waste of time. 12 lovely women and 12 blokes - one decent bloke and all the women picked him! The other blokes were all regular speed daters who never got lucky but would still turn up each time. You changed tables and you knew before you sat down for 2 minutes that you did not fancy the chap. I was quite taken aback by the lack of effort some of the blokes made - wellies, food down sweater, missing teeth none of which floated by boat. I would never go again and it was run by a supposedly professional speed dating agency.

Sleepytimebear · 23/06/2023 21:14

I went once, years ago, so maybe things have changed. Some men didn't show up so you had to sit around on your own for 2 or 3 sessions. Some of the women looked so desperate for a partner and some of the men were so awful. There was one guy who was probably almost 50 in a group that was meant to be 20-35. I didn't meet anyone I was interested in but from memory after the speed dating everyone could stay and mingle, so you could chat more if you found someone you liked. It wasn't for me. I did date a guy with a stutter who had gone to a silent speed dating where you could only communicate with looks and mime. That sounded possibly more fun!

MaxTalk · 23/06/2023 21:34

Polis · 23/06/2023 20:58

always super pissed me off when people came with friends who were either taken or not interested

That would be me. I went with a friend because she needed some emotional support. She wouldn’t have gone otherwise.

It was a bit embarrassing in the end because nobody showed an interest in her. I think she came across as a bit desperate, whereas I was very relaxed because I wasn’t actually looking for anybody.

Did you find someone better than your partner?

Needmoresleepmorecoffee · 24/06/2023 01:10

Speed dating?!, you'd have better luck speed skating!

doodleygirl · 24/06/2023 01:16

My DH and I met speed dating 18 yrs ago, it was the first time for both of us.

Polis · 24/06/2023 11:21

Were you actually unavailable though? Or just not keen?

I was already dating somebody.

Did you find someone better than your partner?

I’ll never know. If had been looking there were a couple that I may have followed up on (out of 24) but nobody swept me off my feet. Most were a definite no for me.

wheeliegood · 24/06/2023 11:26

I've done it twice. At first I felt nervous, out of place, but wasn't too bad. Soon got into the swing of it. Both times I had a really fun evening, primarily because there were a few of us that stayed at the bar after and chatted as a group. Got a bit merry and there was fun to be had. I must admit, I did enjoy the attention. But no men I was attracted to. Am unlikely to go again. But I would recommend it for the fun of it / worth a try - you might get lucky!

ShinyBandana · 24/06/2023 11:29

I did it when I was single 18 years ago. It was an absolute blast. I would have totally gone on my own and it might have been better as my friend picked the same blokes as me and I got 3 matches and she got none. The friend of hers that came with us matched with a bloke I fancied (and also matched with) and she got in there first with a date. I went out with him a week later and he and I decided to date exclusively straight away so he called it off with her. It was v awkward at parties thereafter.

Allgoodusernamesweretaken · 24/06/2023 13:24

I second to what was also said that guys dont usually put in as much effort,all women were dressed up,looked nice, and guys were like, casually strolling in and not that fab, but again, depended on the organiser, and there were a few really nice chaps I met.
The convo sometimes was really bad, but sometimes it would catch on something interesting and flowed well. At the end of the day, 5-6 minutes were enough to see if I was interested in meeting someone again.