STBXH is stalking me

[getsomehelp]

We have been separated for over a year, I have asked for a divorce. He has decided to resist any financial arrangement,
Frequently he lets slip he has info he shouldn't know. I have done the required phone key hacking, computer sweep, locked down all my social media & changed all my passwords.
Today he showed up at exactly the time I was meeting some potential buyers for a thing we own, he does not live or work in the same town & should have been at work. I had set up this rdv by phone call, not text or email.
How did he know? I can only assume he has a tracker on my car? Does anyone know how to find out?
Or is there something I've missed ?

Are you still living in the house you formerly shared with him? He's either got spy cams/mics in the house, or a tracker on your car.

Hidden camera in the house?

I think you'd be wise to report your suspicions to the police, possibly there's not enough for them to take action immediately but they can give advice re security, logging instances etc so they can build a picture of his behaviour towards a case. Officers have been given additional training over the last year or so and stalking has been given higher awareness and priority

Could be a car tracker but that seems less likely unless he always turns up when you go somewhere. Hidden mic - camera in the house maybe? Could you narrow it down a bit. Buy a cheap mobile phone with a sim and £10 credit. He won't have anything downloaded onto that. Then fix an appointment he would be interested in using the phone, in your house. If he turns up, then its not the phone, its some sort of listening device in the house.

There's an app called FING, it will tell you all the gadgets connected to your wifi. Then you can see if there's anything you don't recognise.
You could also change your wifi password, then everything using it will need to reset the password, just on case he is using something on your wifi.

You need to get someone professional to do a sweep of your house and car to find if anything has been put there without your consent. Ask the police firstly. He could escalate and you need to protect yourself. Can he read your browsing content like on here? Be careful.

Might be working changing your mn username. My ex stalks me on here.

Sorry was out.
I have moved out of the family home, he does not know where I live, in theory.& certainly has never been inside.
I dont have wifi. Just 4G.
I got my computer & phone checked.
They found nothing. I password protect Icloud, changed all log ins.
I think he must be tracking the car, but that doesn't explain how he knew exactly what time to show up

Sweetheart id report this to the police

and also i like that suggestion of an app
bit really police is the first call here
look after Yourself xxx

A bug of some sort placed somewhere discreet. Some wierdos like to stick them in cars to track the locations of ex partners.

Airpod or something similar.

If you find one, or more don't touch it just call the police (finger prints) take photos and ring 111 and report it, police can do him for stalking you. Also stop using SM or any online communication until you have closure, its really creeeeeeepy to be honest. Hope this helps.

I got my computer & phone checked.
They found nothing. I password protect Icloud, changed all log ins.

Nothing being found doesn't mean there wasn't something to be found. I'd do a factory reset of both devices, then change logins and passwords again. Because if he's got spyware on your devices then he's got your new passwords.

When you arranged today's meet, where were you when you made the phone calls? Was any of it in the car?

I do use my phone on car speaker alot when driving. But I can't remember where I was when I made the rdv.
I am constantly on the phone for my job... (addled)

There are devices sold which can record audio in a car as well as track your GPS. I've attached a link to a (very badly written) sales page for one of these devices which usefully gives examples of where to position one of these bugs. I'd suggest going over your car with a fine-toothed comb. If you find something, take photos of it in situ and do not say anything out loud to indicate you've found it. You want to report it to police and for him to be unware so he doesn't get a chance to delete anything incriminating from his phone or computer.

I'm sorry you're going through this, he sounds an absolute shit.

https://brivelle.co.uk/product/magnetic-real-time-car-gps-tracker-voice-recorder

Are you totally sure he doesn't have that spywear stuff that gives him access to your phone on it? Also are you telling somone else about things that might be passing the info on?