I've had a good few relationships, several of those were longterm ones ranging between 2-8 years. I had two babies (pill babies, not planned) in two of my longest relationships. At the beginning I've always made sure that marriage was in the horizon, and that they wanted that too.
My current relationship I've been in for nearly a decade. He'd always say he'd propose before 4 years, but here I am still waiting. He says he's not ready, why fix what's not broken, etc.. I mention it to him every now and then, but he says I'm pestering and nagging him and that I know he's not ready, but it's something that really gets to me for some reason, especially recently as a few of his friends have got married. It's like a ache in my heart when I ask myself why do I have to beg and wait for something which other women get without asking, or having to work hard to prove that they're worthy enough for? Out of all of my "serious" relationships, half are either engaged or married now with women they dated straight after me or while with me, so it makes me wonder if maybe I'm the problem? He's a great dad to my baby, even though he's not the world's best partner at times I won't lie, but I can't see myself being any happier with anyone else right now as if it weren't for him I wouldn't have had the courage to do half the stuff I've achieved in life. He's a workaholic, farming will always come before family no matter what, but I feel like I've done the whole "giving him the cow for free" thing. I do feel that my bar is set high, I have high standards even though they could be better if I were to ever date again, but that's not important while my baby is still young. I just need to know if there's something stopping men from seeing me as forever or marriage material, and how could I change that? It's not my main focus on relationships, I may mention it a few times a year, certainly not something I mention a lot of. But enough so that I make my intentions clear.