So i'm 33 and i've been online dating on and off for 4 years! I really want to meet a man to settle down with, I have done from the start, but I just haven't had the luck to meet anyone. I've been on lots and lots of dates, but it never works out past the first or second date.
Back 4 years ago after my relationship ended, when I first dipped my toe into the OLD scene. I matched with a guy who at some point became an Instagram follower on my page. He didn't ask me on a date, but remained a follower, and I wasn't bothered enough to unfollow him. We never spoke on Instagram, only briefly the first time we matched on the dating app.
About 3 years have gone by. As far as I believe, neither of us have had a relationship or success from Online dating. A few months ago, we matched again on Online dating. We chatted a little, but again, he didn't ask me out, and so it fizzled out.
So over the years, he has occasionally 'liked' pictures i've posted on insta, but never reached out. I was away on holiday 2 weeks ago, and when I returned, I posted a few pictures. He got in touch with me and asked me if I wanted to go out sometime. I said I would have a lot on straight when I got back but I would be up for going out sometime soon.
Since then, he has been messaging me every few days, liking pictures I post. Commenting things via DM.
I just find it strange, he has had 4 years to ask me out. Why now? Why does he now decide he fancies me enough? I asked him why now, and he said there was no particular reason as to why now and not before. Should I find this concerning? I wouldn't want to be settled for, but I do find it weird he can't have been that interested before and now is suddenly making an effort