Love my DP of two years very much but feeling a bit dismayed that us socialising with my friends and family doesn’t work very well. He doesn’t have much of a filter, that’s part of the problem: he will blurt out. He may have ADHD, undiagnosed. That’s part of who he is, I guess I need to accept it. And also, If he’s had a hard day it will mean he’s a bit grumpy or more prone to getting into heated discussion when out socialising, and he’s going through a hard time at the moment on several fronts and it’s not likely to improve for him for while. He isn’t grumpy like that with me one to one. For context we don’t actually socialise much together.
And finally, he grew up in the care system and though he’s educated with master’s degrees and leading a middle class life, he has insecurities socialising with my middle class friends and can come across as tetchy and trying to prove himself to them in a way that is not relaxing socially. Not sure how to approach it. I want to be supportive but also find it a bit stressful when this stuff happens.