ExH watching house

[Penny670]

Separated from husband due to repeated infidelity with pretty much anything that moved and abuse - gaslighting, coercive control and smashing things in anger etc if I asked anything really.
Two primary aged children who see him regularly and although they are sad, they are coping well and we have a settled and happy home although we are all quite heartbroken.
Husband keeps watching the house on days he doesn’t have the children. He will drive past the house so often the children see him when playing ang will sit at the entrance to our estate watching when we leave etc. I find it unsettling 😞

You must report this, and report again and again!
Keep a diary of all incidents which will back up your photos. Hope you are OK. Stay safe and have extra locks fitted.
Report to 111 saying it’s making you feel unsafe and see a solicitor for an initial free consultation.
Take care. 💐

Definitely change the locks if you haven't already. There are some good videos on how to do it on YouTube.

There's some information here on reporting Stalking and some useful helplines.

I'd also ring Womensaid

But will they take me seriously? If I asked him why he was doing it, I won’t as I don’t want an argument, he’d say he’s allowed to drive past, that I’m unreasonable etc. But I feel I can’t get a break from him as even on the days he doesn’t have the children, he is here. Tonight, he arrived outside the house on foot? with a toy Dc1 had left in his car. Child said he’d driven past and then must have parked the car somewhere. I don’t know - it’s all very confusing and he always said I was controlling yet since he moved out to be OW - I haven’t once tried to see what he was doing although his behaviour is abhorrent. I feel I can’t escape him at all.

is he monitoring your movements to see if you have moved on? Have your kids picked up on his behaviour? have you told any of your family or friends? Seems like he’s keeping tabs at best, threatening behaviour at worst