Telling the kids about separation

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We are separating and due to tell the kids tweens/early teens) in the next week or so.

We’ve still got to sort the medium/long term plan but initially will be ‘nesting’. Also we are not sure if the separation will definitely be permanent, but suspect it will.

I am wondering what is the best way to be clear with the DC when things are still a bit undecided? We have already held off telling them for over a year so delaying further isn’t an option really - and the nesting is due to start soon.

How did others manage telling DC about a separation?

It’s quite recent for us, we also plan to do nesting but have to sell our existing house first.
We waited till exams/ birthdays out of the way and told them that we had decided it would be best for everyone that we didn’t live together any more, but they we would move between future houses rather than them. 2 of the children said they suspected we were splitting up, depending on their ages yours might also have an idea of what’s happening.
We initially told them together but then had individual chats in more detail as
appropriate for their ages. We have made sure they know it’s no one’s fault and that we love them all, and that they can ask anything they want.

To add we haven’t fully agreed on divorce yet so just talked about separation. They did ask me if we would get a divorce and I said I thought this was likely to happen but it takes a long time (in Scotland so no faults divorce doesn’t exist)

Thank you so much @Ghislainedefeligonde thats really helpful.

Did they have lots of questions about the nesting? I am concerned ours might not ‘get it’…