My DH is getting on every single one of my nerves and I am not sure how much longer I can take this.
He does absolutely fuck all for me and our daughter. I clean the house, I do EVERYTHING with her, I sort everything about our life out and I am just so tired. I love my husband very much I really do, but he is just crap at being a partner. Its not fair on me anymore and its not fair on DD.
I have been up since 5am when our daughter woke up screaming (not sure why) so I was the one to get up, sort her out (having worked 12hrs the day before). He only got up at 9 because I was going to work. I got in half an hour ago and the house is a state, he has done nothing. I asked him to put some washing in and iron me a uniform for work. THATS IT. He has clearly not done anything with DD as her toys are where I left them, so she will have spent another day in front of the TV
He never gets up with her, ever. The latest I sleep in is usually 6am, even on the days when I have to leave the house for 6.30 I have to get DD up and ready so he can stick her in front of the TV whilst he gets ready for work. She is still waking in the night (partly my fault i know) so every day I am up in the night and up early, and I work full time.
I am just so very tired of this. I have explained to him, that loving me and loving DD is not enough, he needs to contibute to our family and I just don't feel like he does.
I don't want to leave him, but I can't stand to live like this. When I don't do anything and leave it to him he either does it half-assed or whinges until I do it. Or just does not do it and the house gets messier. He says I am draining him and I know I do sometimes because I have had mental health problems in the past but its not my fault and I don't even tell him anymore because I feel bad for putting it on him. I am trying so hard to have a beautiful home, and a happy healthy DD and its like he doesn't care.
He knows I need him financially and I do love him I really really do, but I just feel like he doesn't care anymore.
Sorry this is so long and self-pitying I just don't know what to do.
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Don't know how to cope with this anymore.
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JennisaurusUnderTheMistletoe · 11/12/2004 23:08
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