Please help, im so confused as to why I have changed so much........

[LittleCheese]

Hi all,I feel this is just going to be a bit of a rant and a moan, but could really do with some advice.
Since my dd was born in jan 07, I feel i have totally changed and not really in a good way.
I cant stand myself I hate my body, I have never exactly been thin and im no heavier now than I was before I got pregnant but I am such a different shape. I no longer go out anywhere on an evening as I cant find any clothes that i feel happy in. This is really causing problems with my dh. He just cant understand where i am coming from, and I cant stand for him to look at me or touch me cause I think if i make myself feel sick he must be gipping too

I also seem to have lost all trust in my dh, and im not really sure why. He has never done anything to make me distrust him at all, however I just cant cope if he goes out anywhere without me or if he gets a call or text on an evening I am convinced he is cheating on me and i just dont know why. I also find I am unhappy with him going out without me, even if its just to his friends house on an evening. I know this is totally unreasonable, as i expect to be able to go to my friends and get drunk however I can feel myself loosing it when hes not at home.

This is obviously causing problems and I know in my own mind i am being totally rediculous but i dont know how to stop feeling like this....please help

I know how you feel about they way you look, I hate the way I look now, I am fatter now than when I was before PG. Different shape etc etc. DO you feel up to a bit of exercise - it won't change you much but maybe tone you up a bit. Instead of going out in the evening how about a lunch date? New hair cut and a bit of you time might make you feel a bit brighter. Spend some time together and build upon the relationship you have and maybe your trust will build up too?

don't have similar experience littlecheese, but know what it's like to feel lacking in confidence and send a hug.

Sounds like you have some anxiety/depression going on.
Can you find time to pamper yourself, take some exercise, generally get out the house yourself without the little one.