Please tell me your positive post-divorce stories

[Singleaftermarriage]

I was cheated on and he left 3 months ago to live with OW. I'm struggling with fear about the future. Please can I have positive stories of post-divorce even when it wasn't your choice.

I doubled my income, started doing things I wanted to do, travelled, moved jobs, redecorated my house how I want it. I'm overall much happier, more content, and generally just enjoy life so much more.

my ex husband had an affair and he’s now with that woman. It went on for years before I found out but he would be seen out with her whilst we were together and deny it and it was just horrendous. I finally snapped one day and said right I want a divorce. After a long drawn out divorce process I bought my own house and I am happy again, I worked on myself and I am a totally different woman now. He continued to cause havoc after the divorce also

unfortunately he then got diagnosed with a life limiting illness

I look back at the person I was and can’t believe I put up with his shit for so long

im in such a better place in my life now and it’s freeing. It takes time but if he cheated on you, the real winner is the woman who got away xx

ex was an abusive bully.

leaving him was scary, but moved back with parent who i've lived with since.

I'm happier, healthier, have new friends, a social life, and a new partner who treats me like their princess.

It's not been all sunshine and rainbows, but seriously EVERY moment of doubt, upset, and hurt that has got me to this point has been beyond worth it.

Don't know if you've posted before- your post sounds familiar- so I may have said this before.

I ended up as a single parent to a 6yo and a 13yo and loved every minute of it.

I moved to a house I love.

I started hobbies I'd never have been able to do with him.

I made friends and met people I'd never have known.

I joined a band and now gig most weekends.

I refound myself.

I lost weight.

I look younger now than I did then (according to my children 🤷🏻‍♀️)

We're all happier now than we were then.

I had a few flings but didn't get into a serious relationship until around 18 months ago.

He's now married to the OW; old beyond his years; rarely goes out: has lost touch with his friends; moans about EVERYTHING; overweight, balding, in poor health and boring.

He has a lot more money than me but I know which of us is happy 😉

I met someone else a year later. I'm far happier than I was. I went full time and don't have to put up with his moodiness. The ow and him ended more than once and I've ended up the happiest. I became a strong independent woman and will never put up with that again. My new partner is so much more me.

My exH left me. It was horrible at the time but I realise now 5 years down the line that I do not like living with other people. I'm so much happier on my own. The house and everything was mine so he didn't get anything just walked away.
He did ask to come back when his new lifestyle didn't work out but I didn't want him back.
I haven't got anyone constantly going on at me any more or leaving his rubbish all over the house.
I have zero interest in another relationship. He was selfish.

Did anyone leave a marriage with nothing and still be happy?

My stbx has been spending like mad and getting into debt. Not certain how much or which I am liable as yet.

I cannot see how in a year or five years, I will be in a good place financially. I have a part time job, looking for more work but still it's hard to start again from lower than ground zero in your fifties.

ExH left 8 years ago, when the DC were 2 and 5. Since then, I've bought a house, quadrupled my salary, graduated from the Open University, travelled to multiple countries across 4 different continents and remarried a wonderful man. It's all good.

Not me but my friend. Her DH packed his car and left his 30 year marriage because he wasn't happy. There wasn't anyone else, he just needed some space to find himself but he moved in with "a friend" that same night. Yeah, right.

I'm not going to lie, her first six months were grim but about a year later she met a decent lad who thinks the world of her. She is a different person with him and she's happy. I would never have thought that this would turn into something good for her but it did.

I left 9 years ago. He was abusive, tried to cheat on my whilst we were married. We lived in a run down damp house which he refused to do anything about

2 years after I left I graduated with a first class honour degree and got the Job I've always wanted

Me and the boys had a nice house in a nice area. I bought a brand new car. I spent time going out with friends. Making new friends, dating, basically getting my old socialable happy self back!

I lost ten stone, went blonde and had the tattoos I've always wanted!

Now. I'm engaged and getting married next year, we've just moved into our forever home last summer, we both have good jobs and my boys have a far better life than they did ten years ago, they still see their father regularly,

But more importantly, leaving that abusive situation meant I always had my guard up until I was treated the way I deserved to be, it taught me what was wrong and what I shouldn't put up with!