Hello,
I’ve been with my DP for 4 and a half years now and we have DD who is turning 3 next month.
I found out about my DP’s gambling about 6-7 months into our relationship. I was very naive and didn’t know much about it or in fact much about him as I had just moved in with him. As the months went by I realised he spent a lot of time at the bookies and he always had piles of betting slips in his drawer. When he hot a full time job he would spend even more money and time. He always says he loves his sports and that he’s good at betting. As the months went by I found out that he took out loans behind my back and was lying about it in face. Even I was pregnant hecwould loose big amounts and then come home crying and promosing he will change. Of course never happened. When DD was bor I returned to work to finish my studies and he quit his job to look after her. We vlaim UC as a couple so wev anout £700-800 a month and I have a salary if about £1200. I’ve found out that all of our bills are in arrears (rent over £2500, council tax pretty much the whole year £1500 plus the one from this year, water over £800, eon probably about £700). I recently started paying remt myself directly as before I would tranfer money to him and obviously it never was paid. We have massive arguments now more regularly than before and he asked me many times to move out. I also told him I would kove out many times but have nowhere to go.
I really don’t know what I can do as he refuses to seek help for his gambling. I have no family in country apart from his mum who lives far from us. The tenancy is on his name and I have no savings or even good credit score to try and rent a flat.
I’m sorry about this very ling post!
I’d be very grateful for any advice you could give!
Thank you!