Worried about a friend who is possibly drinking too much..........

[warmsummersday]

I have a good friend that likes to drink alot. She is a single mum and works all week apart from fridays so thursday night she always has a drink and also friday and saturday. Last night however she phoned me by accident at 11.30pm, I could barely understand what she said and she put the phone down. I popped round there this morning and I think she drunk about 3 bottles of wine. She had driven her DD to school, spoke to the teacher and then left. I turned up, she stuck of alcohol and looked abit rough but said she felt ok . She didn't remember phoning me.

This has happened a few times in the past when things have been rough for her. I was also drinking more than I used to but have now cut myself off from it and only really have a bottle over the weekend.

I don't know how to approach her or what to say and another thing is she sleeps with her DD. I did tell her today she wants to be careful sleeping with DD (who is 5) and she just said 'why?'

Thanks for reading.

No advice sorry, just bumping in the hope someone will be along soon to help

how good a friend is she? could you be blunt with her about her drinking?

i had a good friend who was on the slippery slope into alcholism and i took the plunge and told him exactly how it was. I was honest with him that i couldn't stand by and see him drink himself into oblivion. It was hard at first, emotional and he was understandably angry with me. But it was the turning point for him and he asked for the help of me and my then partner to help him stay away from drink. He now has a healthy relationship with alcohol and has thanked us many times for intervening when no-one else would.

only you can decide if this friendship is strong enough to withstand you being up front like that, or if it is an approach which would work. Maybe others will be along with more advice to help you decide how to deal with this.

She'll be mortified when you first mention it, and possibly react badly, but I think you really do need to talk to her. People who drink too much think they're getting away with it, that it's ok, and not that bad. Even if she flies off the handle, you need to do it for her daughter's sake. She might not want to talk to you about it, but just let her know that you've noticed and that you're there for her.

As already said I would just tell her, I have a close friend who who drank far to much, luckily no children but would come home covered in bruises miuns her wallet and have no memory of what happedend.

I told her straight that IMO she drank to much and was putting herself in danger, she took it well and others were telling her the same. She drinks less (still to much IMO) but at least it is modified.

Be honest with her

3 bottles of wine? By herself? In one night? And she has sole responsibility for her dc? I would definitely say something - she shouldn't be driving them to school next morning either.