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Pleas give me advice regarding my relationship

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Mummy30e · 19/06/2023 22:34

I don’t even no where to start with out waffling on . Anyway I don’t no if my relationship is working or if we just need to make more or an effort with each other . I done a pregnancy last week as I was late on my period and was positive . I told my partner and he said nothing . At the weekend I started to bleed and pass clots . He then turned around and said I take it your on your period then . So obviously we have kids I didn’t want them hearing any of the conversation as they are at the age where they understand . So when he was going out I said I’ll message you about it witch I did . Didn’t say anything or reply to the message . Today he asks me what is going on take it everything is sorted so when I explained that I’ve had a miscarriage all he said you need to rest . Hasn’t even asked if I’m ok .

moving on form this I don’t not if this is a positive relationship.

  • we sit at the table some nights and nothing is hardly said we both sit on pure phones
  • tonight I tried having a conversation with him and nothing much was said back .
  • I always kiss him and give him a cuddle on a daily basis if I didn’t make the effort he wouldn’t do it . please people help me out I don’t no what to do
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Kikicoconut · 19/06/2023 22:37

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Hope you are doing OK.

He sounds very shut off . I don’t think many men understand the pain and stress and heartbreak of losing a baby.

He needs to make more of an effort with you in yer everyday life OP. It needs to be 50/50. Could you have that convo and maybe do more date nights etc? Phone free nights? Hope he treats u well outside of this x

Mummy30e · 19/06/2023 23:11

It might sound horrible but I haven’t even had time to even think how I’m feeling with having to keep going with out any support and having to look after the children. I agree he does sound shut off but even previously when I’ve pointed things out about this relationship all I get here she goes or he don’t say anything about how he is feeling . We’ve tried going out kid free and stuff be but after a few hours he’s shamed so we have to go back home . I go up to home every day and give me kisses and cuddles and show how much I love him but if I didn’t do that he wouldn’t give me nothing back

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