How do I leave?

[DillingersMoll]

Long story short my partner and I have been together just over 7 years. 2 children age 3 and 5. He has been on and off antidepressants for the last 6 years, coming off them when he feels he's better (his words) he drinks almost every evening, some nights 4-6 cans of Stella, other nights he puts away 2 pints of Stella and a 35cl bottle of vodka.
Tonight he has called me a useless fucking cunt because I wasn't going to go to bed at 22:40 (like most parents normally do according to him)
Over the last month he has called me an embarrassment of a mother and human being.
We have a joint mortgage and there is no way I would be able to afford the repayments if I was on my own.
Things have been going wrong for the last year and a half and I've now reached the point where I've had enough. I know we'd be happier apart. Where the hell do I start though? I have no savings behind me, all my money has been used over the years to furnish our house. All I want is a happy peaceful home for myself and my girls.
If I've not explained things well I'm sorry, I'm writing here as I just don't know where else to turn.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Call Refuge immediately. They may be busy and ask if they can give you a call back. (It’ll be discreet)

This is your essential starting point. They are brilliant and will give you step by step instructions and put you in touch with all the resources you need, financial, accommodation etc. Nit all the options are ideal but they’re stepping stones to a better future.

you know the phrase:
“how do you eat an elephant? One piece at a time”
it’s very much that. They will start you off, and you just follow one step at a time. Think about how much your girls need you to do this, and you’ll get through it.

That’s really awful. He doesn’t deserve another minute in your presence. I hope Refuge or Women’s Aid can help you extricate yourself and DC from this. Have you any family or friends you can get moral support from?

(Or indeed practical support)

Have you told him it's over and that you need to sell the house?

If you want out, you must take the leap and get it over with. Don't keep yourself and your kids in an abusive environment just because it seems like the path of least resistance.

Iv just left my husband he sounds very similar to yours he drink nearly every night n drink anything he used to call me names and be verbally abusive I wasn't planning on leaving as I thought things would get better i was just ment to stay at my mums for a visit then he showed up drunk and I was like no iv had enough that was 5 weeks ago iv been with him 14 years and 4 children I think you just need to be straight about it it's easy for people to say just leave but it's harder said then done if you love him and want try make it work iv gave my husband a ultimatem stop drinking alcohol for 6 months and il return home if not we finished I'm not gonna like its 5 weeks today and I do miss him iv even just started a thread as I feel like I'm going to cave in its hard but children always come first

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We have separated, thank you for the advice though :)
He's given up drinking and is taking his medication consistently now. I'm just waiting for him to be able to buy me out as he refuses to sell the house. Other than that all is ok.
We still live in the same property but I'm only there when I'm not working. The rest of the time I stay with family/friends and when I'm there he goes to stay with family so we don't cross paths too often. And if we do it's for 20 minutes max.
In all honesty I'd checked out of the relationship a long time ago so ending things really wasn't that hard for me. He on the other hand....blames me for everything. But I'm so so much happier now, and very much looking forward to buying my own house in the new year!