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(re)moving in together - separated!

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Newnewhome · 18/06/2023 20:03

Name changed.

DH and I separated around 2 years ago, not divorced. Have been working on the relationship and we both own our own (new) homes.

We have been chatting about moving in together again.

I'm wondering what the best way to do this is - - both on a personal and financial level. Sell both homes? Keep one and let it out? Move into one? Also what is this likely to be like for both of us?

Has anyone done this before and could give some practical tips please!

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Qwertyyui · 18/06/2023 20:25

I am just at the start of the living together apart. DH is looking to buy his own place and if we get to a place where we are going to live together again (after all our kids are up and out) then I imagine we will rent one out and live in the other depending who has the nicest house. I think it is important for the other person to have somewhere to go if the worst was to happen and we were to separate again.

To be honest I really love the ability to watch whatever rubbish I want the nights he is not here I might not want to live together for at least 10 years but we still see each other often and our relationship has massively rekindled since we agreed to do this.

I would say initially renting one place out makes sense until you work out that you can actually live together especially with the way the market is now!

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Newnewhome · 18/06/2023 20:34

Qwertyyui · 18/06/2023 20:25

I am just at the start of the living together apart. DH is looking to buy his own place and if we get to a place where we are going to live together again (after all our kids are up and out) then I imagine we will rent one out and live in the other depending who has the nicest house. I think it is important for the other person to have somewhere to go if the worst was to happen and we were to separate again.

To be honest I really love the ability to watch whatever rubbish I want the nights he is not here I might not want to live together for at least 10 years but we still see each other often and our relationship has massively rekindled since we agreed to do this.

I would say initially renting one place out makes sense until you work out that you can actually live together especially with the way the market is now!

I agree with all of this! I really like being able to just chill in the evenings without debating what to watch etc - not that this is a bad thing it's just more relaxing to make decisions for one.

Thanks a lot for your advice.

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