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Partner & I not getting on after baby

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Angelface89 · 18/06/2023 08:06

My partner & I seem to be growing apart after having our daughter 6 months ago.
Before I fell pregnant we used to go out drinking most weekends and it was fun. When I fell pregnant, this never changed for him and he was out with friends most weekends while I sat in alone. I just put it down to him getting it all out of the way before baby arrives. Once our daughter arrived he has been a great dad to her and hasn’t been out every weekend, thankfully! However, in the last months or he’s been asking to go out with friends a lot more at the weekends. 2 weekends ago he asked to go out both Friday and Saturday night, last weekend he was out Saturday night and this weekend we had a babysitter and I was hoping to have a nice night together. He got drunk and phoned her friend to come over. This made me upset, he told me I’m not as fun as I used to be and that I’m constantly negative and tired. I am not that person that wants to party, drink and sit up until the early hours of the morning anymore since my little girl has arrived.
he’s been away fishing trips, one for 4 nights and one for a week since our baby was born. it’s his hobby so I don’t mind that. It’s just he’s had these long breaks away & I just feel we are in different head spaces now. I told him I’d like yo be able to chill with him, spend time and watch a movie together. He did and fell asleep within 30 minutes. Like we are now totally different people. I do want to make it work and the last thing I want is to be a single parent! I feel so stuck on what to do 😔 it’s getting me down.

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Jjjy · 18/06/2023 09:17

Unfortunately some men think life goes on as though a baby hasn’t arrived and it sounds like your partner is one of them. It is very unlikely he will change. In my experience it tends to get worse. He is a not a great dad either else he wouldn’t be making you feel like this and then blaming you for it. Being a great dad doesn’t just involve playing with the baby.

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