Husbands frequently used emojis

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Hi this is a bit of a wierd one but it’s been playing on my mind. We’ve just got our daughter her own number so she can call/text her dad at work sometimes without using my phone all the time. He was laying next to me and texting her telling her it was bedtime and he loves her etc. In his recent emojis there was a 💗now he hasn’t sent that to me and he hasn’t sent it to her as I’ve looked through her phone. Usually I wouldn’t worry but he has history of texting other woman and I’m 36 weeks pregnant so my insecurities are sky high right now. He sent me a list of his most frequently used emojis and there in order as in I’ve gone through our chat and can see the ones he has sent me. Am I massively overthinking or would any of you be worried? I have asked him and he’s said no he hasn’t been texting anyone etc but he isn’t going to admit it is he 🤦🏻‍♀️ I don’t know if I’m just massively over thinking or what! Sorry for this wierd long post!

Can you not see how crazy it is to tie yourself up in knots over an emoji? The fact is you don't trust him and are looking for clues. Is this the way you want to spend the rest of your life, analysing heart emojis?! Come on OP you are worth more than this!!

Yes I do I am fully aware 🤦🏻‍♀️ trust me if I had solid proof I would leave him. If I could go back in time and know then what I know now I’d leave him. I’m a stronger person now, I was at the lowest of low last year we had a missed miscarriage and I thought I’d never be able to cope again and I got through it so I know I can get through anything. I just don’t want to split my family up based on a emoji he may or may not of used. Hence the point of this post 😕

But you already have solid proof he's an arsehole. It doesn't get much better than that does it?

I speak from experience here and will say that you will always be on high alert if you don't trust him. You will always be looking over his shoulder at what he is doing now. It will make you suspicious and crazy even if you were never that type of person previously. One day you will wake up and realise you hate who you have become and that the relationship is just not worth the angst. You keep analysing those hearts for now thinking if only I could prove it, you don't need to you are already being crazy!

i think you may be using your lack of proof as an excuse to delay the inevitable. Ultimately you’ve kept having kids with a man that likes texting teenage girls. You’ve set yourself up for a lifetime of this. If the lack of trust he caused is messing with your head so much you’re trawling through phones analysing emojis then you have every right to end it when you want to for the sake of your own sanity.

He can do what he wants because he knows you'll never leave him. He's done it before (the last time being in April which is only 2 months ago, so no it isn't a past problem) and you've continued on to not only stay with him but to have another child with him too.
Unless you're going to leave him (which you aren't) all this stress is for nothing, just stick your head back in the sand and carry on. He's never going to change

Also being 30 odd and texting 19 year old girls is absolutely vile behaviour, especially when he has daughter(s) of his own

OP get mumsnet to delete the screenshot it has your picture in it!!!!

Also I actually believe emojis to be such an easy way to catch a cheat. My knowledge is of iphone though. On iphone, you have your frequently used. If you accidentally press a random emoji like when it predicts emojis for you (eg when I type emo for emoji, a black heart is recommended which I’ve never used) these are close to the send button so I have accidentally pressed these before. However, they become approx your “3rd” most used. Once you continue to use your normal emojis they slip to the back of frequent use. If it remains when other emojis are used more often for fact, then it’s clear it is in use and not accidental.

You need to decide to live with him and accept he will cheat or leave him. The option of staying with him and him staying faithful isn’t available.

I've just looked at mine and it's got a tree in there that I've never used. It's at the top as well.

@Totalwasteofpaper has said it best.

Your question about the emoji - that isn't evidence he's cheating. My phone suggests emojis and sometimes then saves them to my 'regularly used' even if I don't use them. My 'regularly used' emoji list has about 4 that I've used in it. Most in there I've never used.

However. I agree with pp that your husband has form for cheating and lying. I understand why you are supicious of him. It's no way to live. As a pp said, I would never look at my DH's most used emojis, and if I did, and saw what you saw, I'd think nothing of it. But your DH has proved he's unreliable and untrustworthy. It will drain you of all energy eventually if you live like this.

Look he's a slag and you know it.

By the time you are 40 you will hate him, I suggest you make plans to make yourself stronger, emotionally, financially, independantly.

This man has been detrimental to your mental health which in turn creates poor peace of mind for bringing children up. He is not an asset, he is a hindrance.

He's useless.

Mines got a unicorn and a lipstick kiss in my frequent used emojis.

Have never sent anyone a unicorn or a kiss like that!!!

I'm sorry but can you not see how warped your logic is and that emoji investigation isn't the way to go.

This guy has messed you around so much and you are still staying. If anything he has done in the past hasn't been enough to get rid of him,how will an emoji make that much of a difference.

Hi Jac Jossa 👋🏻