Work home life balance

[Sally42]

My husband announced tonight that as h works 10/12 hrs a day then I should do all housework / cooking/childcare etc even though I work 37 hours a week. He also said he resented paying most of the bills even though he earns a lot more than me.
He says it should be split 50/50 !!!! I was a sahm so he could develop his business which was a huge mistake in hindsight
He also denies
being verbally abusive to me and has in the past hit me in the lower back, thrown water over me etc.

If you can find the time & energy, research how much it would cost if he had to outsource all the jobs/work you do, unpaid, while he gets to concentrate on his one, salaried job. Then say you'll split the bills 50/50 if he pays you time & a half the going rate for all the overtime you do on top of your paid employment.

So what's changed? Why the sudden dissatisfaction?

Think you know the answer to this

How many days does he choose to work those long hours? 5?

Why does he choose to do that, is it expected of him or is he basically trying to keep away from you and the kids? Or do you (or you both) have a lot of debt or like expensive lifestyles you can’t afford or nice but expensive things?

Why is this kicking off now, what triggered it? Why is he wanting to save his own money and have no parental responsibility for his family? Something sucks.

Do you really want to stay with this man? He sounds absolutely horrible. What would your life be like without him?

He's hit you and thrown water over you, you mention this as an afterthought !
He sounds horrible, why are you still with him?

Leave. He hit you in the lower back and threw water over you and you stayed?

Set up a new life for yourself and yr children. Life is too short for this.