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So jealous of others

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Ohno778 · 17/06/2023 18:35

I have a lovely little boy who is 9 months . Split with the dad when I was pregnant . We have been on / off , now permanently off. Had an awful pregnancy and maternity leave . Am back to work now and I am feeling so lonely.

The only one I really spoke to was my ex but he does not want me so I have taken a huge back seat from that . Work is not the same anymore .

I live at home and they help so much with my little boy, but I wish I could move out . I am saving for a mortgage and feel demoralised by the rates going up ( private rent is out of reach aswell ).

I am so jealous of those in marriages and relationships. I’ve somewhat fixated on my baby’s father ex wife . She cheated on him and now lives a lovely life . She was more of a priority for him during our relationship and in constant contact with him . I felt / feel inadequate in comparison to her .

Anyway this is just one big moan ( sorry ). Although there are some positives in life I feel like such a failure and I am struggling to get over my jealousy .

Any advice ?

OP posts:
TheSilentSister · 17/06/2023 21:10

Comparison is the thief of joy. Be thankful that you have a wonderful baby and supportive parents. Be patient. Concentrate on your son. Save as much as you can so when things are better, you can improve your lot.

loveacuddle1 · 17/06/2023 22:32

TheSilentSister · 17/06/2023 21:10

Comparison is the thief of joy. Be thankful that you have a wonderful baby and supportive parents. Be patient. Concentrate on your son. Save as much as you can so when things are better, you can improve your lot.

Totally this ☝️.
I like that quote and will have to remember it!

TheSilentSister · 17/06/2023 22:56

I live my life by that - I have to. There's always someone better off than you and it does no good to compare yourself to unrealistic ideas. It doesn't mean that your life is any less worthy. It's just different, for now. Enjoy what you have. Work on what you really want. You might find you are far happier/content with less. Each to their own.

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