I wondered if anyone could help me as I’m at a complete loss now and anxiety is through the roof! A close relative of mine has undiagnosed narcissistic personality disorder and has made mine and my families life hell for years now- explosive anger, manipulation, false accusations, grandiosity, gaslighting etc. of course he won’t get help as he thinks we are all the problem and we are stupid for even approaching it with him so this is how it’s always going to be I assume. Actually we did take him for help once and he even went mental at the psychiatrists as apparently ‘they don’t know what they’re talking about and he can’t respect them when he knows more than them’ so I dont think that’s a solution. We try and distance ourselves from him and he tends to be quiet for a bit and then comes back at full force and now we are back at the full force mode. My question is I can’t live like this anymore, the unpredictable phone calls, messages at 3 in the morning etc of just pure anger and hatred sometimes he messages 100 times without me even responding so I’ve ignored him this time as I’m drained by it. Especially as I know most of the things he is saying are just pure lies (a really small example is he says he buys my daughter gifts all the time etc when in actual fact in her 3 years he has got her nothing- turned up to birthdays and Christmas parties etc with not even a card) However the more I ignore him the more he keeps messaging getting angrier and angrier and to be honest although there’s been no threats I’m scared and have no idea what to do. Has anybody dealt with anybody like that and what did you do to help remove yourself from it? This constant feeling of living with slight anxiety is really difficult and we just cannot predict what he’s going to do next.