NC as worried someone will know it’s me posting and link to other posts. Married 9 years, have one DC who is a baby.
before DC husband and I bonded really through our social life - we went to gigs, music festivals, holidays abroad and always out at the pub or meals etc.
since I became pregnant (baby was planned) obviously our social life has taken a massive hit, even more so since DC was born. It’s affected DH more than me, despite us both wanting a child I think he didn’t realise the extent it would change our lives. We don’t have much help so it’s rare we go out alone.
I had a long recovery from birth (took 6 months) and I’m now back at work and I’m tired.
i feel like we’ve lost how we were. DH snaps at me for the smallest thing so feel like I’m on eggshells, I snap at him too about things such as housework, he’s never been great with doing his fair share but that’s another thing.
he just doesn’t seem that interested in me, barely looks at me, sighs when I talk.
I've finally started getting back to being active so have signed up for a running event, now apparently all I talk about is my training which is not true, and even though he says I can take a break and go for runs it sounds like he begrudges me when I do. I only go twice a week atm and it’s the only me thing I have. Anything i talk about he says it’s all I say so can’t win.
DH isn’t interested in having date nights at home which I’ve suggested as we can’t go out as much. Sex life is non existent since baby; mostly because of me recovering and now I’m just tired. To be fair he tried but I’ve been exhausted and we’ve both stopped trying. I initiated last couple of times and he hasn’t.
he tells me to go to my family’s with my DC so he can be alone sometimes, tells me to go to bed when it’s getting late (not in a caring you should rest way) if I’m watching something he tells me to turn it off so he can watch what he wants.
something is off, but at the same time he is thoughtful and will bring me home my fave wine occasionally but then he acts disinterested towards me.
i don’t know what to think anymore. I want us to work and I just feel sad.