Hi everyone,
I find myself in need of some advice regarding a friend I have known for the past five years. We work together in the same department and have always had a close relationship. In fact, I consider her more like a sister than just a friend. We have been there for each other through thick and thin, supporting one another and sharing things we wouldn't normally discuss with our own families.
However, I've recently noticed a concerning pattern in our friendship. There are times when she becomes distant, quiet, and completely cuts me out. We used to talk every day about various aspects of our lives, but suddenly she would stop responding and shut me out completely. I would spend a great deal of time worrying if I had done something wrong to upset her. This would go on for about a month or so, and then she would return to normal as if nothing had happened. These periods of silence and distance really upset me because I don't understand why she suddenly cuts me off.
After reading some posts on forums like Mumsnet, I started to wonder if this is just how she copes with things—by distancing herself. She has done it a few times before, randomly cutting me out, and I'm left trying to figure out what's going on. I have tried explaining to her that her sudden cutoffs make me sad, but now I'm beginning to realize that she doesn't seem to care.
During these periods of silence, I can hear her talking to other colleagues about her problems, but she never mentions anything to me.
The last time this happened, she cut me off for a whole two months, leaving me utterly confused. Eventually, she apologized and said that's just her way of coping.
Now, she has once again started ignoring my messages and calls, except when she needs help with her projects. It feels like she is using me only for her convenience. I'm emotionally drained by this situation. She claims that we are close, but I can't help but feel that I'm being mistreated. Despite all the care and support I offer, I can be easily cut off.
Moreover, when she tells me she is going through something bad, she leaves me worrying and asking if she is okay, but she doesn't bother to reply. This time, I've decided not to push further, as it seems futile.
I would greatly appreciate any advice or insights you can offer in dealing with this friendship dilemma. It's disheartening to be treated this way after investing so much love and care into the relationship.
Thank you in advance any help.