Advice please!A.couple of years ago I opened my husband's bank statement and saw that he had ordered expensive items online!I was miffed as I didn't recall having anything delivered to our home address!So(I snooped through his phone e-mails)he had been getting it delivered to his work address!I was upset and confronted him asking him am I that much of a monster you cannot tell me!!!!!!He has always kept reptiles and looses interest very quickly!He got rid of his last one in 2021 due to the cost of its heating.lightning.live food ect.As I have had 20years of him going through these phases with getting reptiles (and believe me it hasn't been cheap!I ) I asked him if he was going to keep the vivarium in case he got anymore in the future!!!!!!!His answer was no as he said too expensive to keep!I said are you positive as I don't want you changing your mind and then money gets spent yet again!!As probably spent hundreds of pounds over the years!!!!The last couple of months he has been very shifty with his behaviour!!!Money has been very tight as it is for everyone and since I have gone full-time at work ,apart from the rent I am paying for everything!!!!!He works full time as well!!!He never takes me out on dates or buys me thing's like I do for him!when I got upset and mentioned this he said HE HAS NO MONEY!!!!I didn't pay the council tax this month as had other things to pay out for!So I snooped through his phone and he has ordered a vivarium!!!!!WTF!!!!!I am really upset,hurt and angry!!!!!!!I haven't confronted him yet!As don't know how to approach it as he blames everything on me being menopausal!!!!As yet nothing has been delivered! unless he's hiding it !but is this me making issue because of the menopause or what?