How would you feel about this?

[Huga]

An exchange with my mother before mothers day via text. (£ is me, # is her)

£-Hi Mum, what do you want for Mothers day? I can't think of what to get you.

#Not Flowers

I don't want flowers. Text your brothers in the group chat and tell them not to get me flowers.

£- Oh OK, is there anything you do want?

#- Money x

Now my view may be tainted by my relationship and childhood.

So I'm just wondering how others would feel if they had that exchange with their own mothers? Mum is not hard up for cash BTW.

I have no idea why that text is so big 😳

I would say I'm happy to tell them not to buy flowers but would not be telling them to give her money. Sympathies, I have an abnormal mother too💐

No brilliant suggestions I'm afraid but never like to see a post without responses🙈

It wouldn’t bother me giving money so she can get something she actually wants.

It’s easy peasy.

If I said that to my kids, they would laugh so much. They would think I was joking. I think your mother is really really cheeky. Money should come down the generations not up.

You asked her what she wanted and she told you. I don't see anything wrong with this but obviously you feel there is and how you feel is how you feel. There's obviously a whole childhood/relationship background story - and I'm not prying or wanting details - but we can only comment on what you've asked us to comment on.

Sounds fair enough. My mum wouldn’t ask for cash, but my MIL would as she likes to choose a new item of clothing / jewellery with gift money.

Not everyone likes flowers. Some people like them but don’t want them at a particular time (e.g. no point as they’re going on holiday so won’t get to enjoy them).

Maybe your brothers buy expensive flowers and she feels that it is wasteful and would rather spend the equivalent amount on something else. Or maybe they always buy rubbish half-dead flowers that don’t last long.

Send a card and be done with it, I don't pass messages on, she can tell her own son she wants money instead of flowers.

You will have put a space after the #
#hello

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Not to sound ungrateful in any way but when you receive gifts and it's not anything you like or wanted it's abit of a let down maybe she's saving for something although I think on Mother's Day you shouldn't ask what do they want you to get them you should automatically get them a mum mug and a mum card or a mum keyring you know id personally only really ask what someone wants for Christmas or birthdays x

Sounds like she's asked them not to get her flowers before, and they've ignored her request and bought them anyway.

You asked. She told you. What's the problem?

You asked, she gave you an answer, yet you're moaning about it. Don't ask a question if you really don't want an honest answer.

wow

Haha, it works!

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@Huga
Hiya! I find that odd to be honest! My mum would never say that, but I guess not all mums are the same! Xx

My Mum would ask the same. She's obsessed with money.

she wants money

That's # what # she # wants

crap. 😂

I don't see the issue. You said you don't know what to get her. This way she can get what she wants.

I thought this also.

Get her a voucher
Half way house

Where are you? Mother's Day was in March.

it's her day give her what she wants after all you did ask 😄