Why do I still care about ex ?

[inghttg]

My ex gf (I'm also female ) was a huge narcissist and I mean the things she did to me you wouldn't believe.
She said and did the cruelest of things and got a kick out of it.
Within 5 months she met and married someone new and this lady has lots of money and she's living the life of Riley now.
I have mutual friends on fb (not really friends but people I know)
She's always tagging these people on fb so I can see pictures and things she's up to etc
I know she will know me and others ex's will see as she said to me when we first met "my ex will see all of this on Facebook and be jealous "
"My other ex got married to make me jealous "

Anyway my point is Everytime i see posts I feel sick ,it really hurts my self confidence and brings everything back.
She blocked my phone number but didn't block me on social media (she blocked me even tho she was the abusive one -go figure )
Part of me wants to block her or delete our mutual friends and I don't know why I don't
I hate her now -honestly hate her so much

Just block her on social media and anything else. Job done!

She is still trying to hurt you imo she knows you were in love her (still might be) so instead of blocking u off all contact she will keep u on somewhere. Block her off all contact and social media.. Meet friends /family distract yourself, it's hard I know I've been there done that,you are stronger than you u think... It might take years to get over her mentally but u have to detach yourself away

Get into therapy. These are toxic relationships that you need to heal from and that can’t be done on your own. Block, go no contact if you haven’t already. So many of us have been there, you aren’t alone. These people cause SO much pain and don’t deserve your love.

The level of hurt she caused you wouldn't believe
Now she's landed on her feet with this woman
After hurting so many people

Block HER
not the friend

you need a total nuclear block so you never see this bitch ever again

xx

You need to block her so you’re not seeing these posts. She might be living the life of Riley but it won’t last once she’s seen her true colours. Concentrate on yourself and healing from this toxic relationship

The worst part for me is seeing all the pics of them and wondering why she couldn't treat me as nice as this one.
She was on the bones of her arse and now it's obvious she has money
She couldn't even get a phone contract in her name and now as the latest phone
It just makes me laugh how this person who was nasty to me and many others seems to of had a total change of character

I was married to a narc so I completely understand where you’re coming from. Despite blocking him on SM, friends and family would send me screenshots of what he was up to with his new GF. He wasn’t financially supporting his children so it angered me that he was paying for all these lavish holidays with her. They got engaged and her ring was identical to the one he gave me. I wondered why he was treating her so much better after everything I did for him.

Then she got in touch out of the blue because he’d cheated on her and I got to hear her side of the story. It was her paying for everything, she was furious that he’d bought an identical ring. She ended up getting back with him and I often get notifications from the police about domestic violence. Luckily, he doesn’t see our DC.

You cannot judge their relationship based on what’s posted on SM. If she’s a narc, she will treat everyone as disposable. I feel sorry for the new wife as she’s going to squander her fortune on someone who is just using her. But she will need to find that out for herself. Your ex may be living the high life now but that doesn’t mean she’s happy. Can narcs ever be truly happy?

Block her OP and be proud that you got out. I know how hard it is to separate yourself completely from a narc. Therapy might be a good idea too. Hope you’re ok x

@RandomRandomness she has my best friend on her social media too and knows she will be telling me things it's just crappy
I can't even ask her to delete her as it's none of my business really

I've just blocked her
I feel like a weight has been lifted not worrying about seeing her but on the other hand it's a weird feeling like now she's just a bad memory and I'll never see her face again (I know that probably sounds silly

Well done @inghttg! I’ve recently had to make the decision to block an ex and step back from a close friendship after they ‘befriended’ one another so I know how difficult it can be to draw the line, but also how empowering it is to do so. You’ve severed ties as much as you can. I’m proud of you 👏

This type of person always seem to land in a bed of roses. It's infuriating but what can you do, block and move on.

She's treating her nice because it's the hand that feeds her. Narcissism is extremely straightforward. It's also what people like that do initially because no one would spend time with them if they revealed what bottomless holed leeches they really are on the first date. This isn't about her anymore, she is who she is and you can rest assured that this won't change in any meaningful way. You need to block her, it's the ONLY way to start moving forward.

Oh didn't read last post! Well done, this is the first day of not having to look at her fake a smile!

Do you think she's aware of the hurt /damage she causes ?
Or does she really think everyone is to blame for everything
She's never in the wrong and never takes account for anything at all

Blocking is THE best thing

as the weeks and months pass and you don’t see her bitch face you will feel better
really xx

I’ve driven myself crazy wondering the same thing. In the case of XH, who is exactly the same - can’t take responsibility for anything and manages to justify his behaviour to himself - is that he knows he causes hurt, often that’s his goal but he doesn’t care. He thinks he’s entitled to behave however he wants, even if it hurts his own children. Narcs don’t have empathy, they view everyone as extensions of themselves so they’re entitled to treat you however they want.

Sounds the same as her
She would say something then deny it and pretend it was all In my head
Make me jealous then when I reacted -call me crazy yet smirk that I was upset.
She would flirt with anybody and anything and sleep with them -then if I reacted I was crazy.
She would delete texts I had sent her to make me look like I was having arguments with myself
Honestly that's the tip of the iceberg