Is excessive body hair revolting?

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Just read the other thread on this board about shaving pubic hair in a new relationship and the consensus seems to be that most men don't care (kindly confirmed by two men on that thread), shouldn't care and you should only do it for yourself. Makes a lot of sense and I totally agree.

The reality is though that most hairy women do spend (pain filled) time, effort and money on removing their hair and I don't think most of them do it just for themselves.

I was wondering though (but didn't want to derail the other thread or talk about my own issues) about where people set the limit. If a little landing strip is ok what about a full bush? What about a hairy backside? What about hairy arms, backs, underarms, legs and face? What about a proper beard?

My own situation is that I have very dark, very, (very!!) thick hair, am light skinned (so it's very obvious) and well, I am hairier than a grizzly bear. I have spent much time in my life trying to remove it or hide it or just feeling embarrassed about it. Women from my ethnic background tend to be hairier (or maybe because of our dark hair it just shows more) but culturally, it doesn't seem that common to remove all of it all the time and it seems slightly more acceptable (though things are changing..).

When I was younger I was generally considered to be quite good looking and none of my boyfriends seemed to mind (including dh thankfully). I have always removed the hair off my legs, underarms, nipples, upper lip, lower lip and neck and trimmed pubic hair. I didn't do any of this for myself. I did it so I don't look like a freak. So that I'm not judged (by both men and women) and considered presentable.

I've had laser hair removal done on some parts of my body, which has made it easier but I just can't be bothered to remove the hair on my arms, the rest of my face, my shoulders, my backside, etc. I have just consigned myself to the fact that in the UK I wouldn't be considered attractive (now as I'm ageing it doesn't trouble me anymore) and if dh and me would ever split I'd never find anyone here who would be ok with all this hair. It's hypothetical and it really doesn't bother me anymore though I do worry about my young DD (who has inherited my grizzliness) getting bullied or feeling ugly, self conscious or inadequate.

TLDR: My question really is can the majority of people feel attracted to a woman with obvious excessive body hair? Would you judge (or pity) a woman / girl or consider them to be ugly, strange or shabby if they had a lot of body hair?

Same here, except I have no pain threshold, so can't face laser treatment. It made me feel suicidal when I was in my teens-early 30s, though none of my boyfriends had any issues about it. I still feel upset in this hot weather as I want to feel carefree wearing a dress. But otherwise I no longer care and in fact think it's useful to weed out the misogynists, as who wants some man who thinks women should be hairless — it verges on paedophilia, wanting women to look prepubescent.

Personally I don't find it revolting. It's the norm for most women, just less common among fair-skinned, fair-haired women, who are a small minority.

I don't really have any answers. I am really tired of feeling ashamed of something I (Mediterranean) genuinely can't help. Had laser treatment on my face as a teenager which didn't work. I get painful ingrown hairs if I shave/wax my pubic area. My underarm and leg hair grows back the same day I remove it.

If only female body hair weren't taboo!

Tbh personally I don't think anyone should feel compelled to remove their pubic hair (trimming is sufficient). I am aware that is increasingly a minority opinion.

Removing pubic hair, ugh! I'd find that gross and weird. I'd be put off by that in a partner.

You can get the girl version of a beard trimmer and just make everything shorter (if you're worried about ingrown hairs).

I love my hairy legs, and the reaction on people's faces when they spot them too!

Entirely social conditioning. If suddenly it was attractive to be hairy, women would be running out to get hair transplants. Remember a hairy bush was sexy in the 70s so that proves it (find any porno mag from then and you'll see)

Oh and go to Brazil! Women there have no pubes in their tiny bikinis, but super hairy legs!

I stopped shaving years ago but I do have sparse blonde hair so I realise it's less noticeable. I think it should be acceptable, it makes me happy to see women with body hair as I hope the social conditioning is changing but the reality is it's still an issue in the UK and I've heard lots of people say body hair is disgusting, my family definitely think that. I've also noticed the people who say it's fine, your body your choice look absolutely shocked and horrified when I wear a summer dress. I think they mean it's fine as long as you're completely covered up and noone else can see it.

Last summer I noticed a man on the train staring at my hairy legs with a properly disgusted expression, I thought he was going to start shouting, he actually looked angry which was strange.

Yes, of course it would make (some) men very angry, because hair is a sign of not being a child, and a lot of men don't like women refusing to be infantilised, because it threatens their idea of madculinity (which relies on women being infantilised, as it's defined by being not-woman).

I've had angry stares for being fat and daring to be having a great time, literally I was just laughing with my friends and in a great mood minding my own business.. I've had angry stares from an overweight and slim people for enjoying my food at a restaurant, I've had angry stares for smiling at a man who kept glancing at me on a train like he was repulsed when our eyes met like how dare she flirt with me lol, I was just being friendly and in a good mood. It was like 'ewwww'. I've had a guy look at my hips and pull a face.

I've had angry stares for daring to wear a swimming costume at a pool with wobbly thighs and cellulite, from a slim man and a slim woman.
I think some insecure people get very triggered by someone who seems happy while simultaneously coexisting with an insecurity they think we should hide away or feel ashamed about. It annoys them that I'm ok with myself because they can't be.

I know the thread is about hair but my point is if anything you're ok with that is against the grain the insecure sheep will be angry at you for daring step out of the line because they are inconveniencing themselves to fit the mould and how dare you not?