Hi.
I have pondered if I should post for a while now and have decided now is the time as I have nobody else I feel comfortable speaking too.
DH and I have been together for 16years. We have a happy relationship, communicate freely, have our own hobbies and shared hobbies.
In the last 6 months or so he has such little intetest in me sexually. We have had a good, fulfilling sex life for the entire relationship including after our 3 DC's were born.
I am as sure as I can be that he is not having an affair (drop into his workplace often, open access to his phone ect).
He has been to the GP as the lack of libido was bothering him as much as me. One lot of bloods have come back normal, waiting on the second set of results.
My question is what do I do? We have spoken and DH say we can still have sex and that he enjoys it when it happens but he just doesn't think about it. But tbh I now hate instigating as I feel like he is going through the motions like a box ticking exercise. So now DH doesn't instigate as he doesn't think about it and I don't instigate as I feel like I am pressuring him.
How do we move past this or can't we?