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Worse than the ick?

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TreesWelliesKnees · 14/06/2023 17:07

I've name changed for this.

I've been in a relationship with a lovely man for just over a year. Everything was going well until a few weeks ago, when a bit of a crisis (now resolved) occured in his family. During the couple of weeks when things were hard for him I tried to be supportive but he basically felt I wasn't doing enough or keeping him company enough so he pushed me away, without really explaining things. I felt very hurt by that. He has since admitted that it wasn't fair and apologised, and I've acknowledged that it was a difficult time for him. Now he's all over me again and wants to just go back to how we were, but I've switched off emotionally. It's like I've got the ick, but it's not light hearted. I've seen his neediness and I can't unsee it. All I feel now is that I wasn't enough and I was punished for it, and I can't get past it. I'm flinching inside when he tries to show affection, and inwardly irritated when another text arrives from him.

I have a busy life - single parent, work full time - so I wasn't able to give him more time than I did. He knows this.

I can't believe I've gone from being so into him to feeling nothing, so suddenly. Is there any way back from this or is it doomed?

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SerenityNowInsanityLater · 14/06/2023 17:18

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Sceptical123 · 23/03/2024 09:27

Interested to know how you resolved this matter OP. I’d have said it was doomed but hopefully he’ll have realised his behaviour was completely out of order and changed for the better in the mean time

SewingBees · 23/03/2024 09:33

I'm in the doomed camp. He's shown you his real self and understandably you don't like it.

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