Time for affair

HostaLuago · 14/06/2023 12:19

Depends what you prioritise for your spare time.

Some people have imagination, intellegence and a thirst for gaining new skills, new experiences and knowledge.

Others just see a big dick or a vagina imprinted on the imagination part of the brain.

Aquamarine1029 · 14/06/2023 12:24

It's amazing what some people can make time for when motivated.

GarlicGrace · 14/06/2023 12:31

😂 Beautifully put, @HostaLuago

@Brontathedog, at all of my workplaces there was at least one 'affairing' couple. For them, it was at work, on lunch breaks, after work and at work events.

You could have an affair with a fellow dog walker.

I've known people having affairs with their kids' friends' parents, grabbing a hasty shag in the kitchen while making the children's tea and extending the school run by 15-20 minutes.

I even knew a man who had a very long-standing arrangement - I'm not sure it qualifies as an affair, though I guess the two other spouses would say so! They met up for sex in a layby on the drive home from work.

Bookworm20 · 14/06/2023 13:19

Are you looking for tips and suggestions OP? 😂

Original poster

Brontathedog · 15/06/2023 13:37

Bookworm20 · 14/06/2023 13:19

Are you looking for tips and suggestions OP? 😂

😂no I don't have the time. Seriously though, what the poster above said makes more sense now as it's about grabbed moments really isn't it. I never thought of that as an affair but I guess that's the modern way. Not an affair of the heart, but of the genitals.

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ProfessorXtra · 15/06/2023 13:55

If you think about, you make time for all those things because it’s important to you.

If someone really wants to shag someone, they will find the time.

FinallyHere · 15/06/2023 14:28

Yeah, priorities, innit ?

OrlandointheWilderness · 15/06/2023 15:25

HostaLuago · 14/06/2023 12:19

Depends what you prioritise for your spare time.

Some people have imagination, intellegence and a thirst for gaining new skills, new experiences and knowledge.

Others just see a big dick or a vagina imprinted on the imagination part of the brain.

I don't think you'll get a clearer and more accurate reply than this! 😂

pendleflyer · 15/06/2023 15:31

Brontathedog · 14/06/2023 12:13

When do people find the time to have an affair? Seriously. By the time I've worked, done house stuff, walked the dog, done hobbies, various ad hoc stuff for relatives, and the occasional social event and outing with the OH, there is simply no time.

multitasking?

Ihaveoflate · 15/06/2023 19:08

We always joked that my DH was too busy for an affair. Turns out you'll find a way - hotels during the day when he should have been working in his case.

justprance · 16/06/2023 00:21

Ihaveoflate · 15/06/2023 19:08

We always joked that my DH was too busy for an affair. Turns out you'll find a way - hotels during the day when he should have been working in his case.

DH always says this!!!

letthatmango · 16/06/2023 06:21

My husband and I would laugh about how we’d never have time for an affair.

It was all so funny until he had an affair conducted entirely during work hours, he was never home late, there were no evenings out and no weekends away.

He found the time. Where there’s a will; there’s a way. It’s utterly grim.

CatfoodOzymandias · 16/06/2023 06:31

I don't know where people find the time for polyamory, to be honest. Isn't one man- or one woman-hard enough?

MsAnna · 16/06/2023 06:47

My friend/colleague has been doing it for years. At work, after work, work events/nights out. We're inadvertently a great cover for them.

ArcticSkewer · 16/06/2023 06:57

Long chats by phone on the commute, texting in front of the TV at night, then lunchtime meets during work hours, overnights at conferences, book a few hours off work here and there.

Multitasking, basically. Yet they say men can't multitask. They just need the right incentive

Eleganz · 16/06/2023 08:15

You create time by lying to those you are supposed to care about about where you are and what you are doing. You neglect your family to spend to with your affair partner while they think you are having to work late, work away or some other plausible excuse.

Snowy2022 · 16/06/2023 18:50

GarlicGrace · 14/06/2023 12:31

😂 Beautifully put, @HostaLuago

@Brontathedog, at all of my workplaces there was at least one 'affairing' couple. For them, it was at work, on lunch breaks, after work and at work events.

You could have an affair with a fellow dog walker.

I've known people having affairs with their kids' friends' parents, grabbing a hasty shag in the kitchen while making the children's tea and extending the school run by 15-20 minutes.

I even knew a man who had a very long-standing arrangement - I'm not sure it qualifies as an affair, though I guess the two other spouses would say so! They met up for sex in a layby on the drive home from work.

@GarlicGrace Thank you for making me chuckle.

I knew a married man who kept more or less a fixed schedule on everything - arriving home around 5:30/ 6pm; school runs, tennis on Thursdays- wife certainly kept a tight leech on him as he is drop dead gorgeous too. When he started making a move on my single friend (she declined him sharpish) and although 90% we felt he wanted to make her wife no.2 (any man can see she is principled and has values to just have an affair) and not an affair, we started guessing how he might have an affair, even as a start: The best bet was extending school run by 15/20 mins lol. Followed by extending work by 15/20 mins or extending weekly tennis (or ditching it all together) for 15/20mins.

So, glad to see here the 15/20 mins extension is a reality. He looked so busy too but had time to send my friend very long and thoughtful emails about something genuine which quickly jumped to a request to go on a date (much to my friends shock!). The wife was copied in the first email too but was soon left out as my friend 'innocently' complained about feeling like she was being ganged up by the couple. To this day, wife has no clue, her DH made a move right under her nose and it was my friend who declined him. That's when I believed a man will do ANYTHING to have his affair or replace the wife (before marriage is over) if he wants to.

BigPussyEnergy · 16/06/2023 19:18

Brontathedog · 14/06/2023 12:13

When do people find the time to have an affair? Seriously. By the time I've worked, done house stuff, walked the dog, done hobbies, various ad hoc stuff for relatives, and the occasional social event and outing with the OH, there is simply no time.

No dog
no hobbies or affair partner is at hobby so they either skip the hobby or extend it and shag afterwards or on hobby trips etc
no outings with spouse due to lack of childcare etc

My ex said “how would I have time for an affair, when I’m not with you I’m with my kids or at work”. That was the first time I realised that he literally could not consider my perspective! The fact that he went away for weeks at a time with work, and spent 4 evenings a week apart from me meant nothing to him.

teadi · 16/06/2023 19:22

My exH was shagging the OW in his car on their lunchbreak. Never worked late and rarely went out at weekends unless it was together/in a group with me.