Adultwork again!! I need to know am doing the right thing ending 10years

[Secretlyneedsmore]

So iv been with my other half 10 years but we don't live together we live 26miles apart ! In 10 years iv caught him on adultwork n other sites and I caught him again 6weeks ago .I need some kicks up the bum as tomorrow night iam going to finish this relationship and iv got severe anxiety and deppresion ( only since iv been with him )I love him very much and am going to be alone iv no friends nothing but as much as I love him there's no trust .my sex drives gone and iv no energy for this anymore but he's my best friend aswell but my life is at rock bottom since the last time iv caught him ( I looked at his phone ) I can't stop thinking about it .he's promised he never slept with one but as much as try to belive it its just making me low and I don't feel attractive at all my self esteem is gone .so he's been selfish going on those site so I need to put myself first as iv been drinking every day and I can't cope help

Love is not enough. People say this all the time “but I love him…” and frankly, so what? It takes more than that to make a healthy relationship work, it takes trust, respect, empathy, consideration, kindness etc. I know loving him makes it harder, but you need to love yourself more. You know this is toxic, he’s bad for you so you have to accept you need to go through the pain of getting over him, but trust me, it’ll be easier in the long run then the pain he’ll cause if you stay with him.
Stay strong 💐