Adult ds is thinking of trying OLD

[IncognitoMam]

My ds1 is single and starting to think about OLD. His friends all have serious relationships but he's never had one. He's good looking, highly intelligent but good company. Not big headed. Gets on with all ages. Loves dcs and animals. Very well read.
I wish I could make his profile for him 🤣

Anyone recommend decent sites? He has a good job so can pay. I had heard hinge is ok? I met dh on POF but not sure that's for him? Although I know decent men are slim pickings.

I'm not actually making his profile. I might suggest taking his pic as selfies can be awful. He hates getting his photo taken anyway.

I liked Hinge best. Seemed to be used by younger age groups too. But it’s worth being on 2-3, as it’s a numbers game really.

I'll tell him thanks.

The male to female ratio on dating sites isn't in his favour OP. I fear OLD could really dent his confidence. I'd suggest ignoring the OLD sites and try meeting women out and about, organically.

Does he belong to any clubs, sporting teams etc?

Maybe leave his personal life to him?

Maybe they have a close relationship and he's asked her for advice, or they talk about these things naturally. Not everyone had a completely separate family and personal life.

My BF and cousin both met their husbands on bumble. I was married pretty young so never tried any but thought it pretty cool that both met and married through the same one. One of the weddings was only this April!

I’m 31 and single and on Hinge and Bumble.

Tinder is really only for hook ups now.

My friend had success on Facebook dating so that might be worth a try.

Everyone is on the apps now, it’s quite difficult to meet someone in real life.

Definitely try the apps, but maybe get a feel for norms and etiquette of each site, have a reasonably thick skin. People tend to chat for quite a while first. DD (currently dating someone she met on there) was on a few, lots of fellow students popped up, its more the way people meet now, though no harm in trying real life too.

Cant wait for the thread from future DIL!

Yes I had heard that thanks for reminding me. Shame as he's a good 'un. Someone somewhere will be getting a decent dp one day. Maybe it'll just happen naturally?

I wasn't going to push it. We're a close family so can talk about things like friends. My adult dss still come out with us. They have friends but we enjoy socialising together. Just like myself and siblings did with our DM.

I hear so many say they'd love to be closer to adult dcs but everyone is different.

@NP101 no teams, he doesn't like sport except NFL. He goes to the gym. He's a bit of a nerd ( by his own admission) Maybe he should hang out at the library 😉

Yes you're right it was a natural conversation. I don't think everyone should necessarily be with someone. I have a lot of single friends ( sadly ancient like me) who don't want a man or woman.
But he would like to meet someone. He's not desperate though. He's had a casual relationship or two.

I'm just glad I'm not dating now. I did meet dh on POF though but wouldn't recommend it. I've heard too much negativity.

OLD is so common nowadays, there shouldn't be any shame or judgement around it. Everyone has a busy life and most are active online so it just makes sense.
I'm new to OLD. It can be quite brutal, but obviously this is from a female perspective! I'm not giving up, I don't know what the chances of meeting Mr right at Asda is 😅