Is this bad?

[Makalu1]

My partner is very self centred. Last week I had a health check and the ECG came up with an oddity.

I was upset.

I immediately tried to and was able to get a cardiologist appointment the same day - a few hours later

My partner was on holiday. I spoke to her as I was getting off the train to go to the appointment. She could see I was upset

I then went to the Cardiologist appointment. The upshot is I need to have more tests to clarify the situation

I sent my partner a message which she read and did not reply to.

She also never phoned

She was out for a meal on holiday with her mum

7 hours after my appointment she called

i asked why she had not replied - she said she did not have her glasses. I asked why she had not called - she said it was too noisy

I would have been on a hot line waiting for news if it was me and definitely called or replied

Is this good enough?

No not really; is it good enough for you? Sorry about your health op; hope they can sort it out for you but your partner doesn’t seem to really care about you

I’d definitely take that as a sign… You’re not going to be prioritized enough for a phone call when you feel like that??? It’s lonely being in a relationship and realizing you’re alone. I would seriously think about separating.

Generally, I don't think you can necessarily tell from one incident. There can be all sorts of reasons someone might react in one particular situation.

More telling is the general pattern of their behaviour over time. Do you generally feel supported, as if you can rely on them. How are they usually in a crises, especially one where they are not impacted.

Trust you gut, though. If you think something is off, then it probably is. Not definitely, because everyone is different.

Hope you find the answer for you and get into action about it.