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Rightfully suspicious? How to approach?

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Sadgirl94 · 12/06/2023 19:27

So my partner and I always had our phones open to one another and even when we were on bad terms my phone he had access to, during our relationship I caught him speaking to girls and he stopped and I still had access and then I caught him a few more times and then last year he cheated but not sexually and we got back on the terms that everything has to be open access to his phone and all. Now here is the issue we are like 6/7 months in and I still don’t know his password when I mentioned this during a fall out not long ago he was like “oh you can have it it’s my dads bday something 08” but didn’t finish telling me it and like I know his dads damn birthday. Not only that everytime I see him his always doing PlayStation fifa stuff BUT he mentions stuff like his been speaking to his family etc or whatever but NEVER gets any notifications. If I send him TikTok’s I’ve noticed he doesn’t get the notification for it? So notifications are off? He NEVER leaves his phone alone to charge he waits around it for it to charge a bit and takes it. He doesn’t have social media and does not go out without me but I got a feeling he may be speaking to someone? Idk. Before I mention it am I right I to go ahead and have this convo? Also don’t tell me to check his phone as his a deleter.

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Aquamarine1029 · 12/06/2023 19:31

Op, what on earth are you doing? Have a conversation about what? You already know he's a cheater. He's an unfaithful, deceptive liar who you can't trust any further than you could throw him. The only "conversation" you should be having is you telling him to get the fuck out.

PurplePear7 · 12/06/2023 19:33

If it’s like this at 6/7 months just ditch him. Who honestly has the time for this behaviour.

KatyKopykat · 12/06/2023 19:35

Just finish it as it's not worth the drama.

intothegreek · 12/06/2023 22:42

I used to be this obsessed about finding drugs on my stbxh. One day I realised I was wasting my life on someone who had no respect for me, was a liar, would never change and I don't trust. You're doing the same.

DoubleTime · 12/06/2023 22:51

OP I am sorry to hear this. But NO relationship should be as hard work as this. Get out of there. You already know the answers why put yourself through anymore.

You deserve so much better.

Susieb2023 · 13/06/2023 06:43

You know the answer here. He’s not transparent because he doesn’t want to be and you don’t trust him because he’s not trustworthy.

Don't waste anymore of your precious life on this cheat.

Sittwritt · 13/06/2023 20:57

If you haven’t got kids ditch pronto. Ditch ditch ditch

Dacadactyl · 13/06/2023 21:01

Get rid of him.

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