My DH and I recently started counselling.
In one of the sessions the counsellor said something and a number of times since then my DH has thrown this at me when we’ve had a disagreement.
There was also something else where he said “I’ll tell her next time we go and see what she thinks about it” not for help in a constructive way but to shut me down.
I’ve told him now it must not happen again, as it will put me off going to the sessions if he’s just going to use them to gain ammunition rather than to help our marriage.
I don’t know whether I should raise this in our next session, or whether it will just make things awkward?
Don’t get me wrong, we have both said things we shouldn’t at times, but I’ve never once used the content of our sessions against him.
Also, the counsellor said about having a one to one session with each of us. Is this normal, as I thought the whole point was to go together?