Just had a positive test, on the verge of leaving him

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It's a but of a complicated one but I'll keep as short as possible. My husband and I live in our motorhome, by choice to travel. He is a full time wheelchair user and has different medical issues. That's not the issue here, it just makes it more difficult.

Today I had a positive test (not trying but missing period so took one and its positive - makes me super happy) but I can't tell him. He pushed me in frustration the other day and threw something at my face this morning. I feel like I'm internally coming to terms with leaving him as I don't feel it's going to get better, he keeps making unnecessary nasty comments and making stuff up. If I tell him he will flip at me and try to get me to abort. If I leave he can't drive and will force himself and crash or be stuck, I will be 100% homeless and he will try and take literally everything away from me.

I feel a little lost and don't know what to do, or even if I want to work at us. Each comment makes me love him less and less. We lost twins a while back and he got me to terminate once before that I regret on a daily basis, he wanted to travel etc.

Any advice would be great. Just feeling lost as I have nobody

Drive the motor home to his relatives’s house or a public parking area and grab your stuff and start walking. Just leave. Then figure out how to live.

So unfair on the baby if that is how people think, if the baby was planned and her EX suddenly then decided to state he doesn't want a baby then I could understand... The main thing is that she should get out the relationship to make sure she is safe

I never mentioned anything about him forcing her to have another abortion, I stated that he has a choice to want a baby or not... I'll explain more seen as u took my comment out of context if OP chooses to keep the baby and her EX doesn't want a baby then the consequences would be the baby not having a father and her possibly being harassed even more by her ex unless she doesn't tell him which I think isn't fair the baby

This is at least your third pregnancy OP. You probably know by now if you want a baby or not. If not, then you need to act quickly and stop the pregnancy now. If you do want a baby, then start getting antenatal care. Don't ignore it; your health is the issue.

You do need to leave your partner though, if he's behaving like that. It won't get better. You are at risk. Put aside all the worries about where to live and what he will do; you can get temporary support in the short term and you will do so much better without him dragging you down.

Remember that leaving an abusive partner is the most dangerous time, so make sure you have a clear plan and don't waver.

Life could be about to get very much better for you. I do hope so x

I agree with the above about driving to a relatives place or car park then getting out and leaving, I imagine you don't have lots of stuff to take living in a motor home. It is not your responsibility to find a carer, men like him don't deserve help.

Pick a place that he has local connections. Rock up at the local housing department, park up and leave the van, unless it it yours in which case, drive off, drive to where you have connections, ask for Housing Support.

I would have a termination, sadly, in this case.